2014: The Year For Fear

January 3rd, 2014 by Nick Notas 12 Comments

Forest of Fear

Will you walk the path?

Each year you make new resolutions. And each year you’re disappointed by the previous goals you never accomplished.

So what’s holding you back?

Do you procrastinate? Is it too overwhelming? Do you need help but refuse to seek it out?

In my experience, those are symptoms of a deeper struggle — fear.

This year, I want you to focus on the root of the problem. If you can do that, you will set yourself up for consistent success and lasting changes.

I wrote a poem that I hope inspires you all to take this journey.

Another year past
Another year older
Another year of regret
I wish I was bolder

But my world is controlled
By this ineffable being
With a grip so tight
He keeps me from living

His name is fear.

I remain in my comfort zone
I never venture to the unknown
And because of this terror
I am unfulfilled, alone

I cannot live like this any longer.

Now marks the dawn
Of a courageous new plan
For not only a New Year
But to be a new man

2014 is the year for fear.

I will face rejection
And accept it in stride
Not take things personally
Let go of my pride

I will connect with people regularly
And open my heart
Forgo making excuses
So that I can start

I will speak my mind
And convey how I feel
Stop comparing myself
To everyone’s highlight reel

I will say “yes” to opportunities
And take more chances
When I’m attracted to someone
I’ll be forward with my advances

I have tried running from fear.
I have tried ignoring him.
I have tried pretending he doesn’t exist.
I have tried making him my enemy.

Nothing has worked.

So I’ve finally realized
That for this struggle to end
I must embrace being afraid
For my growth to commence

From this moment on
My worries transcend
I’ll say, “Welcome fear,
you are my friend.”

  1. Katniss_Everdeen on January 3, 2014

    Amazing! Do your talents know no bounds?

    • Nick Notas on January 3, 2014

      Haha, thank you! Thought I’d challenge myself to try something different.

  2. Santiago on January 3, 2014

    Sir, you are awesome!!!
    Thank you for your blog. It has really changed my life!

    • Nick Notas on January 4, 2014

      You’re very welcome! I’m glad my advice has made such a positive impact on your life. Share the good word 🙂

  3. pierreghz on January 4, 2014

    Reminds me of the Bene Gesserit’s litany against fear in Dune:

    I must not fear.
    Fear is the mind-killer.
    Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
    I will face my fear.
    I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
    And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
    When the fear has gone there will be nothing.
    Only I will remain.

    I also feel like I should thank you for your blog, it’s insightful, easy to read, and it’s not filled with the blatant misogyny I had to endure on /r/seduction.

    • Nick Notas on January 5, 2014

      I’ve always loved the litany. I didn’t think about it but I wonder if I was subconsciously influenced by it.

      You’re very welcome Pierre. From my experience teaching all this, you can be successful in dating while still being respectful.

  4. Chris McLaughlin on January 4, 2014

    This is awesome man!! Something that I’ve never tried to do was embrace fear, but in the end, it’s the only thing I should do. Thanks for this, it’s very inspiring!

    • Nick Notas on January 5, 2014

      You’re welcome Chris and good luck on the journey!

  5. Carol on January 6, 2014

    Wow, what a great poem! I had a sort of “epiphany” like this about 5 years ago when I decided I wanted to become an outgoing person (I was very shy at the time). It took about 3 years, but I have fully accomplished it now. Good luck in 2014!!

    • Nick Notas on January 8, 2014

      Congrats on getting to where you are now! It’s not easy and it takes time, but the payoff is always worth it.

  6. Andre True on January 16, 2014

    This is an awesome post! Very encouraging. This year I resolve to do something different: don’t let my inner fears stop me from doing what I know I should do. Walk up to and embrace it, it’s the only way to overcome it.

  7. Seymoure on October 14, 2014

    Nick, you are not only a good man but also good.


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