“Here’s what I texted her…” he said as he handed me his phone, exasperated.
I was having coffee with a client. He was frustrated because he met a woman at a food hall the day before, messaged her later, and never heard back.
I looked at his phone. The screen read…
“It was great meeting you today. Have fun at your friend’s party and we’ll catch up soon.”
He flew into a fury of questions. “Nick, what did I say wrong? Was I too boring? Did I text too soon? Did I seem too eager and desperate?”
He wanted an answer.
He wanted me to tell him how to fix his texting so this would never happen again. And he hoped it was still possible to salvage the situation with this girl.
The truth is, the text he sent was generic. A lot of guys send similar messages that don’t stand stand out. He could have sent a more personal follow-up message that built rapport with her.
Still, despite that, I told him, “Your text was fine. I guarantee you it had ZERO to do with her not replying.” That’s the same answer I tell every guy in these situations.
Because if a woman you just met or had a first date with isn’t responding to your texts…
It’s not about the texts. It’s never about the texts.