One of my best friends just had a bad month. A really bad month.
He lives across the country but decided to fly to Boston to see some family and close friends, myself included. He needed to get away and seek the support of the people who care about him.
We spent a great couple of days together last week. Then unexpectedly, he texted me Tuesday morning asking if I wanted to hang out once more before he left.
I’ve been behind lately on some work stuff, specifically an idea for an article for this week. With my retreat on the horizon, some site changes in the works, and my first time mentoring someone to be a coach — I’ve got a lot on my plate.
Inviting my friend over would potentially mean not posting for over two weeks. I haven’t done that in maybe…ever. And in the end, it directly impacts my bottom line.
But saying no to him never even crossed my mind. This is someone I love like a brother. He’s always been there for me and I would do anything for him.
He is a true friend. So I invited him over.
(Coincidentally, hanging out with him inspired this article!)
As my wife and I talked with him, he spoke about how lucky he was to have amazing friends through these tough times. This got us talking about how true friendship is critical to long-term happiness. And also how rare those type of friendships are.
Most of us have only a few people we’d consider at that level, and many we’d consider acquaintances or casual friends. Some of us don’t any of these kinds of friends at all.
That’s because to consider someone a true friend, they have to have some very specific qualities. We are critical of the people we let get that close to us.
Eventually, our conversation led us to try and answer, “What should you look for in a true friend?” Here’s what we came up with.