I’ve heard it time and time again…
“We’ve gone on a couple of dates but I still don’t feel any chemistry. We’re just missing that spark, you know?”
The spark. The spark. Oh that elusive spark.
You can’t put your finger on it…but you KNOW when it’s there and you definitely know when it’s not.
But…do you really know how to spot a spark?
I’ve noticed a problem guys encounter in dating: they think that a spark naturally just “happens”. And when it doesn’t happen, they think it wasn’t meant to be.
I hear guys recount stories about how they found a woman attractive but the overall vibe wasn’t there. And they feel like there was absolutely nothing they could do to change the situation — it was up to fate to make them feel something more.
I’m here to argue AGAINST fate. I’m telling you that a lot of the time, you can create the spark yourself — it’s just hiding underneath the surface. All it needs is a little kindling, a little TLC, and a small flame to get it going.
Don’t give up so easily on a connection that could just need a little more stoking to ignite. Make the most of your opportunities and learn how to build that chemistry for yourself.