Today’s article is by Sarah Jones. She helps introverted men bring out their best to attract women.
Sarah is also a master at recognizing the best opportunities to approach someone. She introduced herself to me years ago and I knew she’d be an established name in no time. I’ve since watched her build deep connections with countless people I respect.
A few months ago, I told her in passing that I was going to Italy for vacation. Right before my trip, she reaches out unexpectedly and offers to take the stress off posting for me. It was the perfect mix of timing and delivering value — everything you want from an approach.
She suggested she would share her female perspective on when a guy should or shouldn’t cold approach a woman. She’s always been fair so I thought this would be a great, unbiased take on a concern I’m sure many of you have.
I could feel his eyes on me, and it made me nervous and excited.
We were at a coffee shop, and I had been feeling his attention on me. I liked the way he had about him.
He seemed honest and gentle. (It’s a whole look I find sexy.)
I was hoping he’d say something.
He turned to me and said a bit nervously, “Hey, I like your laptop cover.”
It was of a silver tree with Apple’s logo as a glowing apple falling from the tree. I thanked him, and we were off to the races.
This guy — he wasn’t Hollywood-perfect. He wasn’t Rico Suave.
He was simply sincere, pleasant, and endearing.
I liked him.
In today’s world, it might not feel so simple.
Consent is a hot topic, and awesomely so. PLEASE let’s have 100% respect for women and for men, too. For humans.
At the same time, in all the ruckus, many men are shying away from showing interest with women simply because they don’t want to be or come across as insensitive / sexist / etc.
Does that sound familiar?
The truth is there’s a fine line between approaching a woman in a way that is welcome versus a way that is not.
I’ll show you the difference.