Who’s the Most Confident Man in the Room?

July 25th, 2014 by Nick Notas 0 Comments

Confident Man in Room

Imagine you just walked into a bar. 

You walk to get a drink and introduce yourself to the bartender. After talking for a bit, he offers you the chance to win free drinks. He says he wants to play a game.

He gets to point out three guys. Through only observation and a short description, you have to figure out who is the most confident man in the room. If you get it right, drinks on the house.

The bartender warns you that the answer isn’t obvious. And in fact, every other person who’s played tonight has gotten it wrong.

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Is Your Race Ruining Your Romantic Life?

July 17th, 2014 by Nick Notas 7 Comments

John Cho Kal Penn With Girls


My father left Greece and came to the states in the early ‘70s. He barely spoke English and had a thick accent. Now he can read and write fluently but still hasn’t lost the accent.

He started as a line worker at an electronics company. Within a couple of years, he moved up the ranks to a production manager overseeing dozens of employees. At that time, he still had to have his secretary write memos for him.

Yet he still managed to be an inspiring leader, build a great social circle, and become close friends with the CEO of the company. In those years, he dated many women until he married my mother, an attractive woman 10 years younger than him.

My father eventually left the electronics company to start his dream of owning a restaurant. He faced the usual obstacles: his food was good but not award-winning. His location was surrounded by competition.

So how did he stay afloat for over 20 years in an industry where 60% of all new businesses fail within 3 years?

He utilized his versatile people skills and ability to attract others. He was charismatic despite looking like, sounding like, and actually being a complete foreigner.

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9 Things That Threaten the Male Ego But Shouldn’t

July 11th, 2014 by Nick Notas 11 Comments

Grind Brain Gears

As men, we are often driven by our pride. So when something makes us feel inferior, we respond with defense mechanisms.

We get angry or frustrated. We go on the offensive. We take it out on others.

Most of the time, things that set us off shouldn’t even bother us. We let our ego get in the way of rational thought.

You’re wasting too much time and energy for no reason. And when you’re that upset over nothing, you’re unable to build positive, productive habits. So please stop letting these 9 things threaten your masculinity.

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How to Handle Wandering Eyes in a Relationship

June 30th, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Obama Checking Women Out

When it comes to checking other people out while in a relationship, men always get the blame. We’re seen as Neanderthals who can’t keep our eyes in check. 

The truth is that women look just as much as men — albeit in different ways.

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The Quick, Easy (And Not So Cheesy) Guide to Happiness

June 19th, 2014 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

Writing Gratitude Journal


We all know we’re supposed to be grateful towards others. Say thank you. Give genuine compliments. Let people know you appreciate them and what they do for you. 

But what about the person who usually needs the most gratitude? You.

When’s the last time you’ve shown yourself gratitude?

If the answer is anything longer than 24 hours, you’re not appreciating yourself enough. And it may be destroying your chance at happiness.

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The Dating Specialist is Now NickNotas.com

June 13th, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Time to say goodbye

After over three years, I’m saying goodbye to The Dating Specialist brand.

I’ve written 200+ articles totaling 200,000 words (roughly 4 full books!) under this name. The site has grown to over 100,000 loyal monthly readers. And in 2 months after launching the forum, there are 110 threads and 700 posts. That’s an incredible amount of advice, support, and success stories from all of you.

Now I’m excited to announce the next step — this site has officially moved to NickNotas.com.

To celebrate this launch, I’m offering discounted coaching for the first time.

Sign up for a free consultation by next Wednesday, June 18th. If you decide to work with me as a new client, you’ll get 20% off any individual session or package of sessions.

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My Interview With Undateable’s Brent Morin on Dating, Confidence, and Rejection

June 6th, 2014 by Nick Notas 3 Comments

Nick Notas Brent Morin Justin Undateable

When I walked into the swanky Laugh Boston lounge, I was greeted by the star of NBC’s newest sitcom Undateable, Brent Morin. He looked me directly in the eyes with a huge grin and did what he does best – make jokes.

“Where do you want to sit?” he asked. Then he immediately pointed to a single chair amongst dozens and suggestively said, “Let’s share that one.” We laughed and I knew it was going to be a great interview.

Brent is spontaneous. He speaks with passion. He’s off-the-cuff and has an unmistakable energy about him. He also doesn’t write any of his material down, ever.

The stage is his outlet. And comedy is his therapy.

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How to Not Suck at Online Dating

June 2nd, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Online Dating Frustration


Men in online dating are usually split into two categories. Those who seem to succeed with ease and those who struggle endlessly. Both sides have no idea what gets them those results.

I set out to understand this disparity. Since my last online dating article (almost 2 years ago!), I’ve re-worked dozens of men’s profiles and re-written hundreds of messages. Here are my collective findings to take your online dating from frustrating to fulfilling.

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4 Famous Sayings You Shouldn’t Listen To

May 23rd, 2014 by Nick Notas 8 Comments

Anaxgoras Philosopher

Proverbs are something we rarely question.

Maybe it’s because they’re “ancient wisdom” from hundreds or even thousands of years ago. Maybe it’s the fact that our parents passed them down to us. Or maybe it’s because they are said so often, they must be valid.

We tweet them daily, turn them into motivational posters, and allow them to influence our actions.

But I’m here to tell you that some proverbs are just wrong. Outdated. Or worst of all, destructive.

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What My Dating “Failures” Taught Me

May 14th, 2014 by Nick Notas 10 Comments

Screech in Saved By The Bell

For all the successful dating advice and stories I’ve shared…what about when things didn’t go so well?

I could lie and tell you that I’ve hit it off with every girl I’ve ever talked to. I could protect my ego and deny any existence of flaws. I could make excuses for romantic situations that went wrong.

But that would mean I accepted failure as something to be ashamed of.

There’s a reason why I put “failures” in quotation marks in the headline. It’s because I’m proud of my failures.

They were learning experiences. Stepping stones to success. The building blocks that set the foundation for the man I am today.  And I’m here to share the subsequent lessons with all of you.

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