Earlier this year I had dinner with friends for some good, old-fashioned male bonding. And like many instances when friends get together…
They all complained about their significant others.
Many of their issues were minor; they were small annoyances that had built up over time. Some of them were frustrations that indicated greater underlying problems in the relationship.
At one point, a friend turned to me and asked, “How come you never say anything about your wife?”
I replied, “If something’s bothering me, I tell her. We’re not perfect and we have our own set of problems, but we always try to work through things together.”
I could see surprise and denial in his eyes. He believed me, but also believed that that wasn’t going to work for him.
When I asked if he’d talked about his concerns with his girlfriend, he said no. He made excuses like, “She’d never listen to me.” or “It’s been going on too long now and it would be awkward to bring up.”
Sadly, this is the attitude so many people have. They refuse to talk to their partners about their relationship problems and instead share their frustrations with friends and family.
I’m here to tell you that venting to other people about your partner is NOT a healthy practice. It’s inconsiderate, destructive, and only showcases your insecurity within the relationship.