The Ancient Greek Secret to a More Social Way of Life

August 25th, 2015 by Nick Notas 12 Comments

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Greece is a country in turmoil.

Banks were shut down and their economy’s best hope is now another bailout. Their politicians are notoriously corrupt and in turn, Greek citizens seek out any loopholes to avoid paying taxes. There are pickpockets everywhere and anarchists wreak havoc in Athens.

And I just spent my last two weeks of vacation there.

However, from the outside, everything looked like business as usual. Restaurants had no empty tables and the shops were bustling. I observed that no matter how bad things had become, Greece was still one of the friendliest and most social cultures in the world.

To understand how they maintain this attitude, you must first understand their mentality and social habits.

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8 Childish Traits That Improve the Quality of Adult Life

August 6th, 2015 by Nick Notas 4 Comments

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During my recent visit to Chicago, I had to share a house with two kids – ages 11 and 14. And I wasn’t sure how it was going to turn out.

But you know what?

It was awesome. It was refreshing. It gave me hope for future generations. (Damn, I sound old.)

I was fortunate to spend this time with well-socialized, healthy children who haven’t endured the harsh realities of the world.

They reminded me of the incredible traits we all start out with in life. But because of the inevitable deception, heartbreak, and loss we experience as we grow up, we become more jaded and cynical over time.

Obviously, I’m not saying we should act like five year olds again. But there are some positive behaviors we could all learn from these tiny role models.

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What Women Want That They Don’t Tell You

July 22nd, 2015 by Sarah Jones 22 Comments

What Women Won't Tell You

 

Nick’s Note: Today we’re going back to basics — and I mean that in the best way possible. We’re reviewing some of the most important dating fundamentals reinforced through a woman’s perspective. I’m thrilled to have Sarah Jones from Introverted Alpha writing here today.

It isn’t your imagination. 

We women don’t always tell you exactly what we want.

Even though we won’t always spell out exactly what we want from you, as sometimes we don’t even realize what we want at first, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in the dark.

There’s a linear, logical way to shed light on what women want when it comes to approaching, flirting, and getting a woman’s number.

Today, I’m going to share with you how to essentially read a woman’s mind in these crucial areas so you can know what she wants, without her actually saying it to you.

There are four things you should never expect a woman to tell you. Might she tell you? Sure, but if you expect it, you’re shorting her and yourself a potentially great connection.

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How to Ditch Small Talk and Get Deep Quickly

July 14th, 2015 by Nick Notas 4 Comments

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We all know that celebrities rehearse their same stock, boring answers to common interview questions. So why is it that Howard Stern is one of the only talk show hosts who gets them to ditch the PR talk and reveal deep, dark secrets?

Some people say, “Yeah, well it’s Howard Stern…” as if his specific biological makeup allows him to be the only person who gets people to open up. When really, he’s worked very hard to learn how to push people’s buttons and allow them to be vulnerable. It’s a skill he’s refined for decades and I believe anyone else can master it, too. 

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Older Men Who Like Younger Women Aren’t Creeps

July 2nd, 2015 by Nick Notas 36 Comments

Michael Douglas is the man.

Half-your-age-plus-seven. This formula has somehow become the definitive rule for the youngest age of a woman a man can date.

So a 34-year old guy can date a 24-year old girl. No problem there. But if she’s 23 years old…that guy’s a pervert.

Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But many people in society still look down upon older men dating younger girls. They think it’s creepy and even put them the same category as pedophiles.

This taboo makes some of my clients feel shameful about their age preferences. So much so, that they don’t go after women they’re actually interested in. Instead, they settle for less or don’t even try at all.

I think that’s awful because I know many normal, great guys who just happen to like younger women. My own father is 10 years older than my mother.

I want to show you that there’s nothing wrong with age disparity in a relationship and it may even work out better for many couples. 

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Not All Long Distance Relationships Have to Fail

June 25th, 2015 by Nick Notas 9 Comments

Long Distance Girl

Studies now estimate 14 million Americans are in long distance relationships.

College students move across the country from their high school sweethearts. Someone gets a new job a few states away from their partners and they try to make it work. People meet through online dating, fly to meet up, and then continue building their connection through video calls. 

The thing is, long distance relationships are hard. And from my experience as a dating coach, most of them fail. But I don’t think they have to.

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Podcast: Taking Conversations from Boring to Exciting and Sexual

June 18th, 2015 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

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David de las Morenas & Dave Perrotta run a podcast called Beastly Gentleman. They teach men how to unleash their full potential in life, love, and career while still being a classy guy.

So when they reached out to me to be on their show, I knew they’d be a perfect fit for all of you. They understood the values I stand for, aligned with them, and genuinely asked thought-provoking questions. They’ve interviewed incredible experts such as James Altucher, so I felt extremely fortunate to be on their show. 

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David and Dave being the beasts they are.

For the episode, we delved into how to have sexual conversations, be more assertive, and implement those behaviors ASAP.

You can read more about the episode and listen via the Beastly Gentleman blog or directly on iTunes.

I hope you guys enjoy the interview as much as I enjoyed being on it. 

5 New Rules of Modern Dating

June 3rd, 2015 by Nick Notas 7 Comments

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It’s a god damn war zone out there!

Okay, maybe that’s a little overdramatic. But for a lot of people, the current dating scene feels like a battle royale.

We set-up dates over text that get cancelled last minute. We message dozens of people online and don’t get a single response. You meet up with someone, have an awesome time, and mysteriously never hear from them again.

It has never been simpler to find a date without even getting out of your pajamas. Yet the tools that are supposed to make dating easier often leave us frustrated and even more lonely.

I hear about it all the time…“Can’t things just go back to the way they were? When you could call someone, go on a date, and they’d actually show up?”

But that isn’t going to happen, it’s the dawn of the digital dating era. And it’s just getting started. You can complain all you want but it won’t change things.

So like everything else in life, if you want to stay successful you need to adapt. Here are 5 new rules to survive modern dating.

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The Good Side of “Bad” Attitudes

May 21st, 2015 by Nick Notas 10 Comments

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As I get older, I’ve become much more of a critical thinker. I used to be set in my ways: I’d form an opinion and take sides before seeing the whole picture.

Nowadays, I try to look at things from all angles. I’m always trying to challenge my beliefs and the status quo. I’m always asking questions like…

“Is this true? Well…why do I believe it to be true? Is it because I’m afraid to admit I’m wrong? Is it because it’s always been that way? Is it because it makes me feel insecure? Is there another viewpoint I should consider?”

We became humans and rose to top of the food chain through evolution. Survival of the fittest. If you aren’t willing to adapt or change, that’s the death of personal growth. 

Lately I’ve been thinking about so-called “bad” qualities in people. The traits that much of society deem as unhealthy and that tell us we should avoid. And I just keep asking myself…are they really that bad? 

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How to Be A Workplace MVP and Get Paid Like One

May 14th, 2015 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

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“The job is what you do when you are told what to do. The job is showing up at the factory, following instructions, meeting spec, and being managed.

Someone can always do your job a little better or faster or cheaper than you can.

The job might be difficult, it might require skill, but it’s a job.

Your art is what you do when no one can tell you exactly how to do it. Your art is the act of taking personal responsibility, challenging the status quo, and changing people.

I call the process of doing your art ‘the work.’ It’s possible to have a job and do the work, too. In fact, that’s how you become a linchpin.

The job is not the work.” ― Seth Godin, Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?

Seth wrote this in his national best-seller five years ago, and it’s still relevant today.

The job market has more competition than ever before. You’re going against dozens, if not hundreds, of people clawing for the same position. They have the skills, the degrees, and the connections needed for the job. It’s not good enough to show up and work hard anymore — you need to stand out.

Smart companies want thinkers and innovators. They want employees who are motivated, communicative, and loyal to something they believe in.

Most of all, they want to see fire and passion in your eyes. You have to love where you work and drink the kool-aid. No one wants an apathetic employee who barely gets through the day.

Here’s how to become a workplace MVP and start getting paid like one.

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