The average woman has been on a lot of first dates.
She’s endured many of the same boring conversations. She’s been asked the same cookie-cutter questions. And she’s had the same generic experiences.
And she’s sent countless, “I had a great time, but I just don’t see you that way…” texts after those mediocre dates.
The reality is that women are still the gatekeepers in dating. They’re the ones choosing whether or not a potential romantic connection will progress towards future dates.
This is exacerbated by online dating where women have endless hordes of men throwing themselves at them.
You need to stand out from the other dates she’s been on.
It’s a bit like the bird-of-paradise’s courtship dance. They show off their unique colors, strut their stuff, and bounce around like maniacs to get the attention of a mate.
They know they have to be memorable to improve their chances of being selected. The female birds aren’t going to respond to a tiny splash of color and some weak little hops.
Human courtship rituals are no different. We just have a more modern, less spastic version.
Unfortunately, a lot of men do the exact opposite of what works. They play it safe. They don’t want to do anything unexpected for fear it will upset the girl. They try to blend in.
And that just makes you out to be another faceless, forgettable first-date memory.
If you want your dates to turn romantic and lead to more dates, you need to become memorable.