Last month, I visited a new city with some guy friends. It was our vacation time and an opportunity to go out for a few nights of fun.
We saw some live music, ate epic food, and visited a bunch of bars. Everywhere we went we were surrounded by beautiful (and seemingly single) women.
Throughout the trip, I saw my (also single) friends checking out a lot of girls.
Now I’m not one to pressure guys to “man up” and talk to every girl they may find attractive…but after the 10th time of seeing one of my friends check out a girl and do nothing about it, I decided to offer him some support. Let’s call him Dave.
I said, “Let’s go talk to her and her friends. I’ll do the introductions and you can come join me.”
And that’s when Dave told me one of the most common lies I hear from guys…
“I’m not trying to talk to anyone today. I’m just hanging out with my friends.”
I felt exasperated. Clearly, he was into her. Clearly, he was paying more attention to her than to his friends anyway. I’m sure it’d be worth taking five minutes away from us if he ended up getting a great date with her.
But it’s not just Dave I’m calling out — I’ve encountered this situation so many times.
Men go out with their buddies to restaurants, events, bars, whatever. They stay comfortable and always just socialize with each other. They don’t talk to women usually because those friends don’t, either.
When you do this, you’re missing out on some amazing experiences.
I’m not saying you should always be “hunting” for women with your friends. But, having fun while hanging with your friends can create some of the easiest, most organic opportunities to meet women. You also have a safety net – when you want a quick getaway or some support, you’ve got people who care about you close by.
Always saying, “I’m just hanging out” is an excuse because you’re scared. Here’s why I know that and how you can start meeting women while out with your friends.