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Do’s and Don’ts of the Friend Zone

April 6th, 2011 by Nick Notas 2 Comments

Don’t put her on a pedestal. She’s human, just like me and you. Try not to get too invested too fast.
Do clean up your act around her. Think of showing her the best you. Stay relatively sober, dress to impress, and listen.

Don’t overwhelm her with lavish gifts, too many compliments (a few genuine ones are great), or free favors.
Do provide support when she truly needs it. If she’s got a flat tire or just lost her job, it’s good to cheer her up when she’s down.

Don’t be too clingy. Constantly asking her where she is, what she’s doing, and who she’s with will only annoy her.
Do give her space and do your own thing. Having an active social life is attractive and helps keep you out of your own head.

Don’t let her use you as just a shoulder to cry on. Make sure she’s talking to you for the right reasons and not because she needs to vent to someone.
Do stand up for yourself and have your own opinions. A girl who likes you will want to hear your thoughts.

Don’t make a grand declaration of your feelings. It builds things up and places unnecessary pressure on her.
Do demonstrate your interest in ways like teasing, using fun innuendos, and playful touching.

Don’t dwell on past relationships and don’t let her either. You’ve got to move on to start something new in a healthy way.
Do have exciting and engaging conversation. Talk about your passions, recount funny stories, and focus on things in common.

And most importantly…

Don’t treat her like one of the guys. Remember that even if she is a laid-back girl, she’s still a girl.
Do touch her and touch her often. Physical contact is the number one way to create sexual chemistry and show you want to be more than just friends.

  1. MGS on December 14, 2014

    “DON’T let her use you as just a shoulder to cry on. Make sure she’s talking to you for the RIGHT REASONS”

    Dear NIck,
    It’d be great if you told us what these “right reasons” were.
    Big fan of your blog by the way, helped me out a lot!
    Keep it up man.

  2. Phoebo Dawson on January 16, 2015

    Two thumbs up! Thanks for writing this, Nick! I’m already 20 and still a n00b in dating, btw. 🙂