10 Playful Teases That Women Secretly Love
Being from Boston (the city of sarcasm), I’ve always been a teaser at heart. Fortunately, it’s a critical aspect of flirting with women. When done well, it can create immense attraction and bring your conversation to the next level. It’s fun and shows her that you’re able to enjoy yourself so she can do the same.
To understand teasing you must first understand rapport…
Rapport is when two people relate and connect with each other. As you talk about commonalities, share stories, and learn more about one another, you are building that rapport. These are typically safe conversations.
Flirting is the essence of creating tension and “breaking” rapport. You’re saying something a little edgy. She could tell you to go screw yourself and it’s potentially unsafe (but all great endeavors are risky to begin with!).
By nature, teasing is jokingly offensive. You’ve got to bust her balls, sarcastically criticize her, and make her feel vulnerable in a lighthearted way. Just keep in mind these five points:
- Make fun of her, not yourself. Self-deprecating, cynical, and negative humor might get a laugh but it won’t get you a date.
- Be expressive. Smile, use your hands to gesture, and vary your vocal tonality. At the end of playful phrases, inflect your voice upward. Get passionate and physical. Exaggerate and be absurd at times. Also…laugh with her, damn it!
- Ramp it up. Start with something less intense and get more personal as the interaction progresses. You couldsay something sexual very early on but if she’s not invested in you, it’s probably going to backfire.
- Have real conversation, too. Don’t tease her constantly, mix it up with more substantial or meaningful talk. Listen and avoid making fun of her when she’s telling you something serious. As you get to know her, tease less but never stop completely – the spirited attitude keeps her attracted.
- Flirt with everyone. Get in the habit of joking with women you meet daily. It’s innocent, harmless, and good practice. Plus, you’ll get a lot of numbers in the process.
The following 10 examples aren’t only for girls at the bar. They can and should be used on dates, at parties, and occasionally over text.
Note: These teases are meant for bars and clubs when you have a good dynamic going with the girl. I wouldn’t get too forward when first meeting a woman during the day. Keep it to a couple light and non-sexual teases unless you take her on an instant date right then and there.
- Give her a silly nickname.
“You’re such a little brat/punk!” (smiling)
“Don’t worry sweetie/babe/pumpkin/cupcake, everything will be just fine.” (jokingly comforting her)
“I like that you’re always laughing, I’m officially calling you giggles.” - Point out something embarrassing or nerdy about her.
“OMG, your dimples are so adorable.”
“You have the cutest freckles on your nose.”
If she does something clumsy, “This is why we can’t have nice things Mary!”
“You’re such a nerd, where’s your pocket protector?” - Mimic or mock her.
If she gets jokingly mad, huff at her and make an upset face.
Playfully exaggerate her accent.
Repeat her words back to her with your hands on your hips. - Challenge her.
Thumb wrestle her.
If you’re at a bar or club, have a silly dance off.
“Please girl, I would so whoop your ass in X.”
“First one to get served at the bar pays for the other’s drink.” - Treat her like a child.
“Oh god, you’re so fired.”
“I think somebody needs a timeout.”
“Go sit over there and I’ll get you some crayons to draw with.”
“Don’t make me spank you missy!”
“I think you’re too young to be drinking that young lady.” - Roleplay with her.
“You like Dr. Who? We’re officially best friends now.” (put your arm around her)
“That’s it, we’re breaking up — I want my letterman jacket back!”
“Where are we running away to for our honeymoon? I was thinking Fiji.”
“I can’t believe we’ve been dating for three years now. Do you remember our first date?” - Stereotype her in a humorous way.
“A Brooklyn girl, you packing heat?”
“Uh oh, a lawyer…I got to be careful what I say around you.”
“You’re from Tennessee? You must listen to songs about whiskey and tractors.”
“Oooh a musician, can you write a love song about me?” - Tell her you wouldn’t get along.
“I can’t believe you like Twilight, we can’t be friends anymore.”
“We could never be friends, we’re both too stubborn.”
“You are such bad news, I don’t know if we can hang out.”
“You’re too nice, I would corrupt you.” - Disagree with something she said.
Playfully turn your back to her.
After she says she dislikes something say that you do like it or vice versa.
Call her out for being rude or shallow.
“No way, lame!”
“Pssh, I disagree, there’s definitely good rap out there.” - Accuse her of hitting on you or being sexually aggressive.
“Are you hitting on me?”
“Get your mind out of the gutter!”
“I see what you’re doing, your feminine wiles won’t work on me.”
“No I will not hook up with you right here!”
“Can you please stop checking out my ass?”
“Don’t look at me like that, I’m not a piece of meat!”
“Stop trying to seduce me, I know what you’re up to.”
“Hey, stop thinking those dirty thoughts — we just met.”
Remember, teasing comes down to enjoying yourself and creating a playful dynamic. Use the examples as a guideline but start trying out your own ideas based on your personality.
You’ve got to take some chances — the guys who always play it safe usually go home alone.
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Great tips. Just what I needed.thanks.
You’re welcome.
Dude I’m doing this through text messaging and I did some of this stuff already, but it’s working on her strongly!!
Awesome ideas..thanks
HAHAHA good shit! Thanks man
I love it
Thanks.. you pretty much summed up with what my crush is doing…especially all the time and when we are alone! He tells people is because he can’t stand me?! hmm
He also has said few times to me to back off to then come back himself… hmm
I don’t have any trouble with women but I do struggle to explain to friends how to approach girls, and being a good wingman is tough sometimes, this helps a ton!
You’re very welcome. You can also check out my article on being a wingman here:
The Official Guide to Being a Great Wingman
What if she seems like she’s using those 10 examples on you? What does that mean?
She probably likes you.
Dummy she’s playing with you. Play back 😉
Personally, I’d think 3 was detrimentally annoying. The rest of this is so cute! Thanks much 🙂
Yeah I looked this up because I recently struck out (talked for a week, asked her to hang pretty soon, took a few days until she did. She brought her friends and a dude joined up with us – she held his hand) and I always flirt by teasing and using that to lead into more real conversations, girls REACT really well to them – but I’ve had a friend of mine get really offended once and she didn’t say anything
Anyways I was just wondering if this stuff actually was a valid way to flirt or if I was being dumb – and I told myself I would never do 3 – its in poor taste hehe
“Use the examples as a guideline but start trying out your own ideas based on your personality.” This is the most important part, I think, especially if the man is looking for an actual relationship. You should put it in all caps, haha. I don’t think all them work equally well on all women- for example, I love #6. The people I get along best with tend to do that naturally. I am a creative person and I like the imagination it takes. However, the guys that try #5 on me? Nopenopenope. It makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. So think about the type of man you are and which one of these roles you want to play. And you’ll probably attract a complimentary woman.
Yeah number five need to be careful but that can come into play later on..
Be sincere and smile, most of all have fun and don’t let her see you sweat.
My boss calls me Chatty Cathy, when I am, actually, a quiet person. She said it is sarcasm. I am a tomboy, and I don’t think she is a lesbian hitting on me. Why she wouldn’t call me my first name is beyond me. There shouldn’t be tension that she is trying to break, as she is the boss. Any ideas why? She seems to be having fun teasing me, while I get embarrass because she calls me that name in front of everyone in the team. Could it be that she thinks I am attracted to her, and the only way she could be comfortable with me is to call me a different name?
Alright, I’ll admit that I was highly skeptical and ready to crap all over this article. However, when I read it to my wife (with the intent of mocking it), I realized that I was, in fact, doing 9/10 things you suggested. Having dated my wife for 7yrs and married now for nearly 2yrs, I gather that this kind of flirting, as childish and as immature as it might seem at first glance, may be one of the things helping to keep the flame going in our relationship. To learning that I’m still flirting with my wife after all this time is actually kind of heartening.
Caution: Everything in moderation. Too much of this and you might come across as an a-hole. When wifey isn’t in the mood for my antics, I back off.
And do go over to Twitter and read the #YesAllWomen discussion, because you really don’t want to be That Guy just because it gets you lots of numbers.
Wow, these are really great tips. But One Question. What does this mean, If I am talking to a girl i like and teasing her she always wants to walk with her friends and never really wants to walk alone with me
Wow, these are really great tips. But One Question. What does this mean, If I am talking to a girl i like and teasing her she always wants to walk with her friends and never really wants to walk alone with me?
just happened to me – except we only hung out once so far
and she held another dudes hand
I thought maybe she wanted a buffer of friends, but no. She just wanted another friend
what if i accuse her for hitting on her or being sexually aggressive but she will then reply “you are such a feeler…why would i be hitting on you?” how do i respond to that?
Simply, say, ”because u like me ^_^, dont try to hide it.” Bro do not be afraid, u have to go all out and if she wasn’t meant 4 u, then another one will be ^_^ this is a great chance of letting ur feelings out and if she turned on u, start a new beginning with a new Life Mate 😉
– Clarent .
Choose the right moment to accuse her for hitting on you. I don’t think this is the first thing to do, it requires a level of thrust and a funny moment
Wow
dude your officially the Love Doctor to me your awesome!!!!
“Go sit over there and I’ll get you some crayons to draw with.”
Lmfao!! this is gold xD
Very nice, but i always plan on what to say whenever i call her. can someone please give points to hit on?
Well this explains the teasing and embarrassment coming from my crush 😂 (He likes me in the same way) Bet he’s being looking at this
You are so human, I would very much appreaciate learning from you. Keep up the celestial work.
Bro…you are really awesome…i wish you had started writing 10 years back !
Just to mention that this stuff is very culture-specific, and if you’re dating cross-culture be careful, a tease could be taken as an insult. Especially if there’s a language barrier then directness often works best and avoids misunderstanding.
awesome ..but i think every girl have her own personality .. and thats to much difficult to understand in begning .. i think there would be something for boys also .. hahaha .. we also have some emotions 🙂 is it boys ?
Wow this is awesome I love it
Nice tips
Great tips
Great advice! Use this alot in messaging works great. To bad I’m too shy to act it out in person FML.😥