We care about other people’s opinions…a lot.
Whether we like to admit it or not, they affect our every day decisions from accepting a new friend into our social circle to buying that book off of Amazon. It’s the force of social proof at work.
Social proof is the idea that we are influenced by what other people see as valuable.
If a whole lot of people think something’s awesome, then you’re more likely to see it as awesome, too. Vice-versa, if everyone dislikes something, you’re more likely to see it in a negative light.
Being The Friendly Guy Is Attractive
Say a guy’s at a party, surrounded by friends with a big smile and a lot of laughter.
Even if you don’t know him, the attention he’s getting makes you want to get to know him as well. New people are going to be much more receptive to him than to some random guy that nobody knows.
The worst thing you can do during a social gathering is stand off to the side quietly.
Even if you’re waiting for a friend or relaxing, when you isolate yourself people assume you’re nervous and out of place. Women are more likely to label you as the “creepy guy” or simply have no interest in meeting you.
Whether you’re in a bar or at a party, always come in and strike up a conversation with people nearby, right away. There’s no motive behind this, just talk to people to have genuine conversation and get to know them. It doesn’t need to be anything intense. Just keep it casual, brief, and friendly.
So talk to a few different groups, men and women, and enjoy yourself.
Go Mingle, Even If It’s Quick
From the outside, a woman observes how social you are and how others appreciate your company. If people are laughing with you and you’re chatting up a group of girls, you look like a good time.
A woman uses other women’s approval of you as a screening process. When those women happily welcome you, in her mind she sees that you must be a guy with real value.
She’s thinks, “Why is he so interesting? Who is he? I have to meet him and see what he’s all about.”
Now, when you go to approach her, you’ve already made a great first impression. By leading in strong, she’ll be more willing to open up and connect with you. With enough social proof, girls will be attracted to you before you even say hello – it’s that powerful.
Most of all, don’t walk into a room like a predator stalking it’s prey.
Be a social magnet and care about what others have to say. The women around you will take notice of your mass appeal and automatically be drawn to you, too.