Pink Bomb Omb

How To Turn Around
A Bad First Impression

If you’ve been out to a bar or party, you’ve probably encountered a few girls who weren’t so polite. Rather than just a simple rejection, they were straight-up insulting.

There are a ton of reasons why this happens…

  • Maybe you said something that ticked her off.
  • Maybe you interrupted her conversation with a friend.
  • Maybe she wasn’t ready to be approached.
  • Maybe a guy was a dick to her a few minutes before.
  • Maybe she’d had a horrible day and was stressed out.

Sometimes all it takes is a small misunderstanding (especially when amplified by alcohol) to turn an interaction sour.

Failed Solutions

Typical pickup advice says to keep deflecting or challenging her. Bust her balls, tease her, and maintain a cocky attitude.

In theory, this isn’t a bad starting point. Often, saying a few witty remarks is enough to get her to ease up.

But what about those situations where it doesn’t? Where you’ve exchanged a few lines back and forth and she’s only getting more pissed off?

That’s where many men fail. They don’t want to back down and keep pushing the issue instead of diffusing the situation.

Over the years I’ve learned that people reciprocate behavior.

If you’re being kind of an asshole, others will protect themselves and retaliate in a similar fashion. If you keep battling a girl, it’s hard for her to drop her defenses and admit she’s in the wrong.

Eventually, neither party concedes and you walk away thinking she’s just a “bitch”.

A Smarter Solution

Instead, the solution is to be the bigger person and kill her with kindness. Break the tension and use it to your advantage.

For example:

  • “Hey, sorry if I sounded like a jerk, that wasn’t my intention at all.” or “I think we got off on the wrong foot.” followed by “Let’s start over — I’m Nick.”
  • Look at her friend and sincerely say, “Wow…your friend is really mean/isn’t very nice.” or even directly to her. No girl wants to be classified as an inconsiderate person. You don’t know how many times a woman will instantly change her attitude and start trying to prove she’s actually nice.
  • If it’s really bad and she’s being unreasonable, walk away. Tell her, “I came over here because I thought you looked like a chill person — I guess I was wrong. Have a good night and no hard feelings.” I’ve had many girls realize they overreacted and stop me to apologize for their actions.

My point is that not everything is black and white.

Just because a girl is in a crabby mood at a given moment doesn’t mean she’s a “bitch”. Do you know how many guys grope, cat call, or creep on attractive girls during a given night out?

Women wear that social shield for a reason.

Don’t assume the worst in people, we all have our bad days. A confident man rises above animosity and doesn’t resort to hurtful tactics.

Have the self-respect to stay calm and walk away if necessary.

Related Video