Mark Twain was the man. He was one of the most prolific authors and public speakers in American history.
But most don’t know he was also a master riverboat pilot, mined gold, formed a volunteer militia for the Civil War, hung out with Nikola Tesla, and patented three inventions of his own. He had intense passion and brilliant philosophies on life.
I read some of my favorite quotes by Twain the other night and realized how much they applied to the dating world. That’s why I decided to share some of his insight with all of you.
1. “Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.”
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, dating is an active process. You need to get out there and start meeting women if you want to see results.
Most of the single guys I know aren’t stepping out of their comfort zones often enough.
2. “Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”
You have to make a girl laugh. Laughter generates positive emotions, makes her comfortable, and builds a deeper connection.
If you’re tired of bland conversation and mundane questioning, it’s your job to step it up. Actively practice teasing, sarcasm, innuendos, and anything else to bring some humor into your interactions.
3. “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
A genuine compliment can make a lasting impression on a woman. Your compliments should be meaningful and reasonable — don’t just give them out to win her over.
If you’ve been talking for ten minutes and she’s incredibly interesting, tell her. If you love her sense of style and the way she does her hair, let her know.
4. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.”
Even the guys who are great with women still get nervous sometimes. Whether that means hesitating to approach a girl, asking for her number, or going for the kiss – it never goes away. The difference is they face their fears head-on and push through them.
If you let your anxiety get the best of you, you’ll miss out on countless dating opportunities.
5. “The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.”
A big discovery I had in dating was realizing that I didn’t have to talk constantly. Take your time, it helps you formulate higher-quality responses.
Lean back, smile, and don’t be afraid to think for a few seconds. As long as you’re comfortable, she’ll be comfortable, too.
6. “Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation.”
We’re too focused on saying the right word or looking cool that we lose sight of being in the discussion. It prevents us from listening fully and we miss many points we could connect with.
Stay out of your head and listen to what she’s saying. The more often you do that, the better you’ll be at vibing with a girl.