How to Kiss on the First Date


That first date kiss is where the magic happens. It’s the pinnacle moment where you officially cross over from a platonic relationship to something more personal. The question is, how do you get there?

The progression to the kiss has to feel natural to both you and her. You have to build momentum and gradually create tension with physical contact throughout the date. It’ll be awkward if you haven’t even touched once and then suddenly go in for a kiss.

Touch early

Begin the date with a big hug and tell her how great she looks. It breaks the initial touch barrier and shows that you’re comfortable with being close to her. When I started doing this, I noticed how much better it set the mood for the rest of the night.

Touch often

As the date continues, you want to playfully and openly touch her. Gently push her when she says something funny or laughs at one of your jokes. When she tells you something personal, show your interest by briefly placing your hand on her arm or shoulder. You can hold her hand and lead her to where you’re going next.

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Don’t wait until the end

Now, say things are going great and you’re hitting it off. You feel like there’s a connection and you want to go in for the kiss. When’s the best time do it? According to most of Hollywood, it would be those final seconds when dropping her off at her place. I beg to differ.

Waiting until the very end of the date to kiss is a common mistake. It puts pressure on her since she knows it’s coming and builds it up way too much. You’re better off by surprising her with a spontaneous kiss. It’s easier than you think.

It’s smoochin’ time

After the date has been going well for a while (at least half way), simply stop talking and look directly into her eyes. Put your arm around her, pull her in towards you, and kiss her. Don’t make out with her, but give her a good solid kiss for a couple of seconds. Then softly pull away and continue the conversation where you left off. That’s all there is to it.

But what if she doesn’t kiss you? Don’t get thrown off by it and don’t make it a big deal. She could have been caught off guard or just isn’t ready yet. Give her more time. Work on building deeper trust and attraction and try again later.

Take the chance and kiss her, you may be surprised with the results.