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The Newbie’s Guide to Looking Attractive: Fashion

February 18th, 2012 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Ryan Gosling FashionWhy should you look your best? Because it’s damn sexy. And because how you dress and take care of yourself conveys a lot about who you are to women. It shows you are put together, have high-self esteem, and you’re confident about your body. When you look good, you feel good.

I used to wear baggy jeans and dorky glasses. It didn’t help me much then and it won’t help you now. Yes, you can get lucky looking like anything, but it makes a striking difference when you make a few adjustments.

Remember, the clothes you wear to work are not necessarily what you wear to play. Comfortable khakis and a powder blue polo aren’t your best bet for impressing the ladies.

Here’s my beginner’s guide to an attractive man’s style.

The Basic Rules

  • Fit is king. It’s single-handedly the most important rule in looking stylish. Most guy dress in clothes that are way too loose. This comprehensive fit guide is amazing. Also, don’t hesitate to ask sales associates for advice on the fly.
  • Learn your measurements. Any tailor, department store, or men’s store will do it for free. Often, when you buy something from a store you will need to get it tailored. A few dollars can make you look like a million bucks.
  • Understand color usage. Discover the right tones for your skin/hair and what colors work together. Limit your outfit to no more than three colors at once.
  • Match correctly. Pair your belt with your shoes and accessories. Make sure they’re the same color and preferably the same texture – shiny shoes with a shiny belt. With dress pants, match your socks to your pants. With jeans, match your socks to your shoes.
  • Do not mix and match metals in accessories, choose either all silver or all gold. Please don’t overdo the bling, one or two pieces maximum.
  • Avoid excessive “peacocking” (dressing extravagantly). Simple is always best. Unless that’s really your thing, choose one statement piece. That can be a big belt buckle, a vibrant tie, a fedora, or extra flashy shoes.
  • Get a watch. Watches are sexy, but they have to be the right kind. Metal, leather, or nylon bands with clock faces are best, lose the rubber digital watch unless it’s during athletic activities. Examples: Timex, Seiko
  • Embrace the tie. You don’t need to wear a blazer with it, just an ironed button-down shirt. No novelty ties (cartoon characters, etc). The tip of your tie should reach your belt buckle – no more, no less. If you’re a slimmer guy, skinny ties are a great option.

Required Items for Your Wardrobe

  • Dark wash jeans – The most universally flattering pants a man can wear. Excellent for any occasion. Slim and straight cuts are recommended. Avoid the “over-distressed” look and whiskering on the thighs.
    Examples: Levi’s, Gap
  • Fitted T-shirt – Jeans and a t-shirt looks great as long as it’s fitted. Keep to black, white, navy blue, and grey to begin with.
    Examples: J Crew, Zara`
  • Fitted button-down shirt – This is your prime nighttime shirt. Just like with T-shirts, stick with neutrals first in solid colors or subtle patterns. You can also roll up the sleeves to ¾ length to instantly look more stylish and casual. Also, learn the correct collar type for you.
    Examples: Express, Zara
  • Casual blazer – It can bring together an otherwise boring outfit. Feel free to grab that T-shirt on the floor and pair it with a knit/cotton blazer to dress it up. You should be looking for a jacket that’s shorter than the one you wear with a suit.
    Examples: Zara, Banana Republic
  • Dress shoes – Black or brown preferred, black is sexier and will give you more options when going out. Avoid square-toed shoes and cheap leather. This is one area where paying a little more is worth it.
    Examples: Allen Edmonds, Cole Haan
  • Classic belt – Black or brown, depending on what color shoes you have.
    Examples: Cole Haan, Johnston & Murphy

If you want additional ideas, check out MFA’s Basic Wardrobe Guide and The Style Blogger’s 25 Essential Items.

Fashion Resources

Reddit’s Male Fashion Advice Community – The most comprehensive fashion community I know. Start with the sidebar (menu on the right) for how clothes should fit, style guides for each piece of clothing, and buyer’s advice for good brands.

Kinowear’s Style Guides – Excellent blog with some seriously well-written articles. I find myself returning here often.

Everyguyed – Cool site I recently found with thorough how-to’s, ideas for new pieces, and even some grooming tips.

Need some help figuring out what works for you? Consult the wingman.

  1. Omar on July 6, 2012

    Why avoid square tipped shoes? I have several pairs and really like the look.

    • Nick Notas on July 6, 2012

      Some square tipped shoes are okay but often guys pick those first and choose unattractive designs. Since this guide is for getting down the basics, you’re better off going with a rounded design as a safe bet. If you’ve got a good eye for fashion, then square tips can work well.

    • Jack on July 13, 2012

      Square-toed shoes make your feet look clunky and have the unfortunate side effect of making you look shorter in height. They were briefly fashionable in the 90s but are a faux-pax today. Women always notice a man’s shoes and they will judge you on it.

    • Rdick on July 13, 2012

      Because they’re ugly as hell.

    • DZ on January 15, 2013

      If you’ve got a good eye for fashion, you would not be wearing squared toe shoes.

  2. Anna on May 18, 2013

    I’m a woman and trust him, a man who dresses well (and these are great guidelines!) immediately raises his attractiveness significantly.