Return of the Gentleman: Paying for a First Date
A woman going out on a date usually has to put more time and effort into getting prepared. Not only that, she’s taking a bigger risk by coming out than you are. Let’s face it, it’s more scary for her to come out and meet you (especially if you’re a stranger) than it is for you to meet her. Your main worry is making sure that you both have a good time while hers might be staying safe.
Treat her well and you’ll have a better chance to make a lasting connection.
Make her feel special
Covering the bill shows that you value her taking the effort to look pretty and spend time with you. It’s a genuine token of your appreciation and demonstrates you being a gentleman. Buying a girl’s meal doesn’t mean you’re a pushover unless you’re only doing it to impress her. Make it come from a real place and she’ll know that you care.
Pay quickly and don’t make it a big deal
When the check comes, take it in your hands and don’t make a fuss about it. Tell the waiter or waitress beforehand to give it to you at the end of the meal. Place your card or cash in the holder and continue your conversation together. It shows you’re not worried about it and are more focused on enjoying your time with her.
Refuse her offer to pay or split unless she insists on it
Many girls will offer to be polite and to show that they are willing to pay their fair share. Unless she truly insists on paying for the meal, simply tell her that you have this one covered and she can get you the next time. If she is persistent about it, accept her gesture otherwise it can come off as rude.
You work hard for your money and a nice woman will realize that. She’ll understand that you spending the little extra to have a great night together is a significant gesture on your part — you feel she’s worth the effort you’ve put in and you’re genuinely interested in her.
I understand that money may be a little tight…especially nowadays. If you really can’t afford dinner out, there are plenty of good dates that you can do for free or on a smaller budget. But that’s for another article 🙂