Think you’re the only one afraid of approaching new women?
After college, I spent two months straight trying to meet girls, just to chicken out nearly every time. I can’t tell you how much I struggled to muster up the courage to introduce myself: my heart raced and my stomach was in knots.
My fear of rejection always got the best of me.
It got to the point where I was so frustrated and almost gave up completely. I convinced myself that connecting with those women wasn’t important to me, which was an obvious copout.
That was until I read a quote which changed everything:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”-Mark Twain
You Are Rejecting Yourself
Why was I so afraid of being rejected? Why did I care so much? Why did I let fear rule my actions and miss out on great opportunities?
I realized that in the end, I would be the only one losing out. This epiphany spurred a change in me — I decided I was going to take charge and get the dating life I always wanted.
No more excuses and no more waiting around.
Soon after, I saw a girl in a sundress standing outside H&M. Still terrified, I swallowed my fears and told her how cute she was. She blushed, said thanks, and told me she had a boyfriend.
There it was, my first official rejection. Did it sting? Damn right it did. I walked away with nothing to show for it, yet at the same time, I felt a huge burden lifted off my shoulders.
Since then I’ve met many amazing women I wouldn’t have otherwise. I’ve also been shut down in more ways than I can remember. I’ve had girls ignore me, laugh in my face, and flat out insult me.
But you know what? These experiences made me stronger, confident, and taught me valuable lessons.
Stop Avoiding The Discomfort
The fear of rejection never goes away. You get used to it, learn to accept it, and manage it better.
You just have to get the first one out of the way. I still feel anxious when I see a beautiful woman, but I don’t let it stop me from meeting her. Instead, I use those nerves to my advantage and keep the interaction fresh.
You can’t have success without failure, and your failures teach you the most.
Every single guy who’s become confident with women has been rejected over and over – it’s inevitable. In fact, the guys who overcome the most are the ones willing to fall the hardest.
So what are you waiting for? Now it’s your turn.
Starting today, I want you to meet three new women within the next week. It can be as simple as asking for directions or as bold as showing your direct interest.
The point is to just do it.