7 Easy Ways To Meet More Women at the Bar
With the long weekend coming and the 4th of July celebrations, many of us will be going out for drinks with friends. Since most people will be in high spirits, take this as an excellent opportunity to challenge yourself and meet new, quality women.
After years of going out, you begin to notice the subtle mistakes that guys make at the bar. Most of the time all they need is a few simple adjustments that would change their interactions dramatically. Here are 7 easy ways that will improve your chances at the bar.
Carry a genuine smile
Women are out at the bar to relax, have fun, and enjoy good company. The best way to convey that you’re a guy who’s friendly and interesting is with a confident smile. Even if you’re nervous, keep reminding yourself to smile, especially when you’re not interacting with people.
Avoid walking around like a hunter
If you’re looking for a girl to talk to, walking around like a predator isn’t going to help. Rather than circling the bar, pick a spot to lean against with a good view of the room. Casually look around until you see a girl you’re interested in talking to. Give yourself no more than 3 seconds to get up, walk over, and approach her. The more you think about it, the bigger the chance you’ll psyche yourself out.
Keep your drink low
Look around a bar and I guarantee you’ll see more than one guy holding his drink tight against his body. We do it when nervous as a defense mechanism and women sub-consciously pick up on that. Always keep your drink low and to your side, it demonstrates open body language and an inviting attitude.
Hold eye contact with her
Oh crap, the cute girl across the bar is smiling at you and you’re first instinct is probably to look away. You’ve got to fight that urge, return that smile, and hold eye contact with her until she looks away. She’s showing you she’s interested and wants to see what you’re going to do. After she breaks eye contact, walk over to her and introduce yourself. You can even start with something playful like “Hey, you can’t just check me out like that expect me not to come talk to you.”
Don’t lean in to talk
“The music is too loud, she can’t hear what I’m saying!” is a common complaint from guys in a bar. Guess what? It’s not getting any quieter so you have to adapt to the situation. Constant leaning in is awkward, frustrates her trying to hear you, and kills the vibe. Instead, project your voice further or move to her side. Standing shoulder to shoulder is a great way to hear each other better and get a more intimate feel.
Never ignore her friends
Have you ever hit it off with a girl at the bar only to have her friends drag her away moments later? Yes, sometimes it’s just bad luck and there’s nothing you can do but it’s usually because you haven’t won them over. Her friends care about her and want to make sure she’s protected and having a good time. Introduce yourself to her friends (male and female) and interact with them — get them laughing and enjoying you being there. After a couple of minutes, you can face her more direct and have a one-on-one conversation. Which leads me to my final point…
Get some alone time
If you’re trying to create a deeper connection with her, you have to get her alone. You’re not going to do it when she’s surrounded by a bunch of her friends all talking to her at once. Once you’ve got some one-on-one time near the group, it’s time to bring her somewhere personal. Invite her to grab a drink at the bar, take a seat, or move to a place a little more quiet. You can even say to her friends “I’m going to borrow your friend for a few minutes if that’s okay.” if you’re feeling extra polite. Lead the way and start building that connection.