“You’ve to look people in the eyes.”
“Always hold eye contact when you introduce yourself.”
“Eye contact is the key to a good first impression.”
By the time I was 21, I had heard everything self-improvement advice had to say about the importance of eye contact.
And even though it was repeated over and over, I still dismissed it. It just wasn’t a high priority for me at the time.
I see this same mentality in the guys who come to me for help. While walking around Barcelona, I encouraged a client to commit to making strong eye contact with the women he greeted. He was feeling a bit overwhelmed, flustered, and finally burst out, “What’s the big deal with eye contact? Why are we focusing on this so much?”
I thought about how to explain the deeper reasoning to him. I wanted him to know that eye contact is SO much more than just a skill to practice. It’s a heartfelt way of expressing yourself and meaningfully communicating with other people.
I wanted him to really understand the old adage, “the eyes are the windows to the soul.”
Looking someone in the eyes isn’t just a cool trick to appear more confident. It’s a fundamental component of human connection. It’s how you build trust, create intimacy, and reveal your inner strength.
So today, my goal is to show you how a lifelong commitment to eye contact will profoundly transform your relationships.