It seems like everyone I talk to hates the dating process. They go through the motions because they have to, but not usually because they’re excited about it.
They feel it’s a huge source of pain and frustration. And any time we’re forced to do something unpleasant, we begin to loathe even the thought of it.
To start fixing this, there’s a level of personal responsibility to make the experience more fun for yourself. I often write about how…
You have to learn how to enjoy the process. You have to learn to speak, act, and express yourself in a way that is congruent and rewarding to you. If you’re always trying to figure out what other people want and how to impress them — you’re in for a bad, anxiety-ridden time.
But there’s another element that’s a real drag on everyone…
That comes down to how the other person treats you and also how you treat them.
Because I see a whole lot of people treating each other poorly. Sometimes, they may not even realize the gravity of their actions. But the result is still the same:
People get hurt. Then they start to lose trust or resent connecting with others in the future. This then leads them to be protective, defensive, and inadvertently hurt others themselves…a.k.a. YOU.
We get into a cycle where we all lose basic courtesy and treat each other like shit, when dating is supposed to be a beautiful experience.
So I want share the ways I see men and women mistreat each other. Only when we’re aware of our actions and how they affect others can we create healthier dating for everyone.
Disclaimer: These are just the more common trends I see. There are plenty of times where the roles are reversed and break the mold.