Men get hung up when they need to follow-up with women.
When it’s time to message a girl they recently met, just had a date with, or haven’t talked to in a while – they panic.
They tell me they totally blank on what to say next. They want to write a perfect, charming message but it feels impossible when there’s hardly any context to build from.
So they overthink it because they don’t want to say the wrong thing. They second-guess their ideas and delete draft after draft. They stress themselves out and hate every minute of it.
Ironically, when these guys do finally send out a message they worked so hard on…
It’s generic. It feels cold. It’s bland and evokes no emotion. It’s completely safe.
And it makes it even more obvious to a woman that you two are strangers who lack rapport.
It’s often some variation of, “Hi Allie, this is Nick from X. It was great meeting you.” Or “Hey, how was your weekend?” Or “I had a fun time the other night. Hope you got home okay.” Or “Good morning, hope you have a great day!”
Do you really think this is how women want to reconnect with a guy they’re supposed to like?