This is a guest post by Pete, an advanced social skills coach from Beard Strokings.
Nick: Casual dating is clearly on the rise. With apps like Tinder, many people are choosing to forgo committed relationships.
Although the stigma is lessening, men who choose to date around are seen as lacking in morals. They’re judged as being players, assholes, and heartless.
I think it’s healthy not to rush into relationships out of societal expectation, religious pressure, or fear of being alone. That’s not good for anyone and the people involved just end up getting even more hurt.
And when you’re young, you often don’t know what you want or need in a connection. Casually dating and keeping your options open often helps build the necessary experience to choose better partners when/if you’re ready.
But the stigma about casual dating is rooted in truth. It’s a touchy subject to tell someone who likes you that you’re not looking for anything serious. It’s also tough to navigate seeing other people in a respectful manner and set healthy expectations all around.
Unfortunately, some men don’t care enough to ensure the women they’re casually dating are comfortable and have their needs taken care of. They give a bad name to anyone who’s not ready for an exclusive relationship.
So my good friend Pete is here to answer all of your questions about casually dating in a healthy way. If you haven’t already, read his first article that teaches you how to approach the conversation with a woman you’re seeing and develop a compassionate mindset.
From there, use the guidelines below to maintain better connections with whoever you’re dating.
The label “dick” is handed out to guys who place their shallow, selfish interests above other people’s deeper interests. They value their own amusement over someone else’s happiness. The satisfaction of getting laid is more important than a woman’s well-being.
Being non-exclusive with women, in itself, doesn’t make you a dick. It’s HOW you do it that defines your character.
It mostly comes down to being honest and upfront.
Honesty is telling a girl the truth when she asks. Being upfront is sharing your expectations about things she will probably care about in the future.
If you want to be a good guy and casually date women, many of the decisions in your relationships will rely on those principles.