Don’t. Get. Married.
You’ll lose your freedom. You won’t see your friends. Worst of all, say goodbye to your sex life.
That’s what people told me my whole life. And like many guys, it made me terrified of commitment.
I knew that 40-50% of marriages ended in divorce. My parents split by the time I was seven years old. Then my mom got divorced again after her second try.
As I got older, friends and co-workers told me horror stories about how bad their serious relationships were. So I never wanted to get into a long-term relationship, let alone a marriage, because that path seemed to only lead to misery.
I know many of you, men and women, have heard this, too. You may even feel the same way.
And truthfully, serious relationships aren’t for everyone. I know many happy people who only date casually or remain single by choice.
But I think relationships and marriage have gotten an unfairly bad rap.
Many people are in fulfilling relationships and genuinely in love with their partners. I’m fortunate to be one of them.
It’s not easy, though. You have to work hard at it all the time. You have to push your comfort zone, challenge your emotions, and get through some real pain.
But it can also be life-changing, fun work with your best friend. You get to be an amazing team that grows together.
And what I’ve realized after years of coaching people in their love lives is…
A lot of the people shit-talking relationships are the ones responsible for their own misery. And they’re just projecting that unhappiness onto you.
Here are three common reasons why your friends might be unhappy and how you can avoid the same pitfalls.