Older Men Who Like Younger Women Aren’t Creeps

July 2nd, 2015 by Nick Notas 56 Comments

Michael Douglas is the man.

Half-your-age-plus-seven. This formula has somehow become the definitive rule for the youngest age of a woman a man can date.

So a 34-year old guy can date a 24-year old girl. No problem there. But if she’s 23 years old…that guy’s a pervert.

Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But many people in society still look down upon older men dating younger girls. They think it’s creepy and even put them the same category as pedophiles.

This taboo makes some of my clients feel shameful about their age preferences. So much so, that they don’t go after women they’re actually interested in. Instead, they settle for less or don’t even try at all.

I think that’s awful because I know many normal, great guys who just happen to like younger women. My own father is 10 years older than my mother.

I want to show you that there’s nothing wrong with age disparity in a relationship and it may even work out better for many couples. 

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Not All Long Distance Relationships Have to Fail

June 25th, 2015 by Nick Notas 9 Comments

Long Distance Girl

Studies now estimate 14 million Americans are in long distance relationships.

College students move across the country from their high school sweethearts. Someone gets a new job a few states away from their partners and they try to make it work. People meet through online dating, fly to meet up, and then continue building their connection through video calls. 

The thing is, long distance relationships are hard. And from my experience as a dating coach, most of them fail. But I don’t think they have to.

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Podcast: Taking Conversations from Boring to Exciting and Sexual

June 18th, 2015 by Nick Notas 6 Comments



David de las Morenas & Dave Perrotta run a podcast called Beastly Gentleman. They teach men how to unleash their full potential in life, love, and career while still being a classy guy.

So when they reached out to me to be on their show, I knew they’d be a perfect fit for all of you. They understood the values I stand for, aligned with them, and genuinely asked thought-provoking questions. They’ve interviewed incredible experts such as James Altucher, so I felt extremely fortunate to be on their show. 


David and Dave being the beasts they are.

For the episode, we delved into how to have sexual conversations, be more assertive, and implement those behaviors ASAP.

You can read more about the episode and listen via the Beastly Gentleman blog or directly on iTunes.

I hope you guys enjoy the interview as much as I enjoyed being on it. 

5 New Rules of Modern Dating

June 3rd, 2015 by Nick Notas 7 Comments


It’s a god damn war zone out there!

Okay, maybe that’s a little overdramatic. But for a lot of people, the current dating scene feels like a battle royale.

We set-up dates over text that get cancelled last minute. We message dozens of people online and don’t get a single response. You meet up with someone, have an awesome time, and mysteriously never hear from them again.

It has never been simpler to find a date without even getting out of your pajamas. Yet the tools that are supposed to make dating easier often leave us frustrated and even more lonely.

I hear about it all the time…“Can’t things just go back to the way they were? When you could call someone, go on a date, and they’d actually show up?”

But that isn’t going to happen, it’s the dawn of the digital dating era. And it’s just getting started. You can complain all you want but it won’t change things.

So like everything else in life, if you want to stay successful you need to adapt. Here are 5 new rules to survive modern dating.

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The Good Side of “Bad” Attitudes

May 21st, 2015 by Nick Notas 10 Comments



As I get older, I’ve become much more of a critical thinker. I used to be set in my ways: I’d form an opinion and take sides before seeing the whole picture.

Nowadays, I try to look at things from all angles. I’m always trying to challenge my beliefs and the status quo. I’m always asking questions like…

“Is this true? Well…why do I believe it to be true? Is it because I’m afraid to admit I’m wrong? Is it because it’s always been that way? Is it because it makes me feel insecure? Is there another viewpoint I should consider?”

We became humans and rose to top of the food chain through evolution. Survival of the fittest. If you aren’t willing to adapt or change, that’s the death of personal growth. 

Lately I’ve been thinking about so-called “bad” qualities in people. The traits that much of society deem as unhealthy and that tell us we should avoid. And I just keep asking myself…are they really that bad? 

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How to Be A Workplace MVP and Get Paid Like One

May 14th, 2015 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

Stephen Curry MVP

“The job is what you do when you are told what to do. The job is showing up at the factory, following instructions, meeting spec, and being managed.

Someone can always do your job a little better or faster or cheaper than you can.

The job might be difficult, it might require skill, but it’s a job.

Your art is what you do when no one can tell you exactly how to do it. Your art is the act of taking personal responsibility, challenging the status quo, and changing people.

I call the process of doing your art ‘the work.’ It’s possible to have a job and do the work, too. In fact, that’s how you become a linchpin.

The job is not the work.” ― Seth Godin, Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?

Seth wrote this in his national best-seller five years ago, and it’s still relevant today.

The job market has more competition than ever before. You’re going against dozens, if not hundreds, of people clawing for the same position. They have the skills, the degrees, and the connections needed for the job. It’s not good enough to show up and work hard anymore — you need to stand out.

Smart companies want thinkers and innovators. They want employees who are motivated, communicative, and loyal to something they believe in.

Most of all, they want to see fire and passion in your eyes. You have to love where you work and drink the kool-aid. No one wants an apathetic employee who barely gets through the day.

Here’s how to become a workplace MVP and start getting paid like one.

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9 Bullshit Excuses You Use to Avoid Meeting Women

May 7th, 2015 by Nick Notas 26 Comments


Recently, I got a call from the first friend I ever started going out to meet people with.

We’d both built different lives on different coasts and it had been 2 ½ years since we last spoke. He told me he was flying back to Boston soon to see family and wanted to share some exciting news.

I had no idea of what to expect of him. I knew him as a shaggy-haired drummer with little fashion sense. He’d been scared of talking to women and always had an excuse ready to psych himself out of it.

We’d pushed ourselves for years to become more confident, social men. But I didn’t know whether or not he’d continued to grow since then.

So when he walked into our favorite Thai place, my question was answered. He was in great shape, wore a stylish leather jacket and sunglasses, and greeted me with a confident smile.

We immediately fell back into easy conversation. He told me about his successful career in data analysis and his awesome relationship with his fiancee. He asked me about my business and my life. He was well-spoken, a good listener, and completely humble.

Then he paused and said, “I want to ask you something…will you be my best man at my wedding?”

I was speechless and felt a rush of emotion. I finally responded, “Why you’d choose me?”

“Because I owe everything to you. If it wasn’t for you calling me out on my bullshit excuses, I never would have met my fiancee. More than that, I wouldn’t have been able to hold a healthy relationship with her. And I wouldn’t have become who I am today.”

By letting go of his limiting beliefs, my friend altered the course of his life. Now it’s time for you to stop making these 9 excuses and land the woman of your dreams.

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Can Men and Women Really Be Friends?

April 24th, 2015 by Nick Notas 14 Comments

Boy and Girl Friends

Few questions spark a more passionate debate than this one. 

When asking women, you’ll usually hear, “Yes!” When asking men, you’ll usually hear, “Of course not.” or “Only if the guy is gay.”

This sucks for many women to hear. It’s depressing to think that no man can be a real friend, no matter how well you get along.

However, it’s not that black and white. I think the correct answer is, “Yes…but only under the right circumstances.”

Growing up, two of my best friends were girls. But I’ll admit, things were made easier because I was never physically attracted to either of them.

Here’s the first nugget of truth about male-female friendships…

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How to Have Sexual Conversations with Women

April 10th, 2015 by Nick Notas 7 Comments

Clark Gable Flirting

“My friend and I just made a bet and we want you to settle it. Who do you think masturbates more — men or women?”

I’d just read some pick-up advice that told me to approach girls in bars with that question. And I was positive I was going to get slapped that night. 

They stared back in disbelief and laughed nervously. One of the girls scoffed, “Are you serious right now? Why are you even asking us that?”

I was mortified. I felt ashamed. I stumbled over my words trying to explain myself, “Umm..I’m not trying to be weird. I’m sorry if it came off like that.”

They told me how it was weird and they weren’t going to answer a question like that. I apologized and walked away back to my friend.

I figured I must be doing something wrong. So I tried again with another group, and then another. I kept getting the same negative reactions.

After downing a drink (or two), I decided to try again with another group. They initially gave me the same attitude, but this time the liquid courage gave me a comeback.

With a tipsy grin I shot back, “Oh please, we’re all adults here. We all do it, it’s not a big deal.”

As I awaited the wrath of three women, I was surprised to hear them laughing and sharing their opinions. They even began debating each other and trying to argue their viewpoints playfully to me.

After a couple of minutes, we were all introducing ourselves and hitting it off like old friends.

Why did women suddenly respond with enthusiasm rather than distaste?

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How to Break Up Without All the Heartbreak

March 26th, 2015 by Nick Notas 4 Comments



She said, “When I can’t sleep, I want you to stay up with me.”

“I can’t do that. I have to get some sleep for work.”

It was 3:00 AM and I had to leave for work in a few hours. The girl I’d been seeing for a couple months was an insomniac.

“Well I don’t care, as long I’m your girlfriend then I expect you to stay awake.” She snapped.

That was it for me. I lost it.

“Get out of my bed and get your stuff. I’m taking you home.”

We drove 20 minutes to her house in silence.  I dropped her off and the only thing I said was, “I’m sorry but this isn’t working. I don’t think we should see each other anymore.”

She muttered, “Okay,” and left. I think she was shocked at how abruptly I kicked her out into the cold night and broke off our relationship.

I never spoke to her again.

I’m not proud of the way I handled the situation. I was young, immature, and an asshole.

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