9 Romantic Reality Checks You Won’t Get Anywhere Else

September 24th, 2015 by Nick Notas 13 Comments


No psychic powers here. Just real talk.

Romance is a touchy subject.

And it’s almost impossible to get unbiased romantic advice because there are so many emotions involved. Egos can get bruised and sentimental attachments cloud judgment.

Guys always tell me how they can’t ask their friends for help because they never get the whole truth. Your friends want to spare your feelings instead of listing out all the things you could be doing better.

Similarly, you can’t ask your family members for advice because they think you’re great, just the way you are. You’re told to be nice and “be yourself” and you’ll meet someone perfect eventually. And sometimes, your parents’ religious or moral beliefs make them inflexible in helping to decide what’s best for you.

This sticky situation is what motivated me to become a coach. I wanted to educate and help people without having to hold back. Sometimes it’s tough love but it’s exactly what you need to hear.

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Becoming an Asshole Won’t Fix Your Romantic Problems

September 15th, 2015 by Nick Notas 15 Comments


Everyone’s looking for a quick fix that’ll get them more dates. What’s the point of investing time and effort when you can just take a shortcut?

A lot of men who struggle to connect with women get frustrated and look for the easy way out. They eventually have a Eureka! moment like…

“Hey, I should just be an asshole all the time!”

I mean, I see how it kind of makes sense from their point of view.

In college, cocky frat guys get laid like rock stars. Go to a bar and you often see the loudest, most obnoxious guy making out with girls by the end of the night. And everyone has a friend who treats women like total crap but always has someone to go home with.

They assume that their own lack of success is due to them being too nice. So they think they just have to stop caring about girls they meet. They need to treat them as sexual conquests and nothing more. They have to put them down, ignore them, and make them jealous by sleeping with other women.

Basically, they must become an arrogant narcissist. If they do that, all their problems with women will be solved.

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How to Have a Threesome With Your Girlfriend

September 2nd, 2015 by Nick Notas 8 Comments


Peter: “What would you do if you had a million dollars?”

Lawrence: “I’ll tell you what I’d do, man, two chicks at the same time, man.”

Office Space

This quote reminds us of the collective male fantasy – the infamous ménage-a-trois. Though the 2 girls/1 guy sexual combination is known for being a predominantly male pipe dream, I’ve found that it’s many women’s idea of a good time, too.


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The Ancient Greek Secret to a More Social Way of Life

August 25th, 2015 by Nick Notas 14 Comments

Statues in Love


Greece is a country in turmoil.

Banks were shut down and their economy’s best hope is now another bailout. Their politicians are notoriously corrupt and in turn, Greek citizens seek out any loopholes to avoid paying taxes. There are pickpockets everywhere and anarchists wreak havoc in Athens.

And I just spent my last two weeks of vacation there.

However, from the outside, everything looked like business as usual. Restaurants had no empty tables and the shops were bustling. I observed that no matter how bad things had become, Greece was still one of the friendliest and most social cultures in the world.

To understand how they maintain this attitude, you must first understand their mentality and social habits.

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8 Childish Traits That Improve the Quality of Adult Life

August 6th, 2015 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

Vintage Kids Playing

During my recent visit to Chicago, I had to share a house with two kids – ages 11 and 14. And I wasn’t sure how it was going to turn out.

But you know what?

It was awesome. It was refreshing. It gave me hope for future generations. (Damn, I sound old.)

I was fortunate to spend this time with well-socialized, healthy children who haven’t endured the harsh realities of the world.

They reminded me of the incredible traits we all start out with in life. But because of the inevitable deception, heartbreak, and loss we experience as we grow up, we become more jaded and cynical over time.

Obviously, I’m not saying we should act like five year olds again. But there are some positive behaviors we could all learn from these tiny role models.

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What Women Want That They Don’t Tell You

July 22nd, 2015 by Sarah Jones 37 Comments

What Women Won't Tell You


Nick’s Note: Today we’re going back to basics — and I mean that in the best way possible. We’re reviewing some of the most important dating fundamentals reinforced through a woman’s perspective. I’m thrilled to have Sarah Jones from Introverted Alpha writing here today.

It isn’t your imagination. 

We women don’t always tell you exactly what we want.

Even though we won’t always spell out exactly what we want from you, as sometimes we don’t even realize what we want at first, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in the dark.

There’s a linear, logical way to shed light on what women want when it comes to approaching, flirting, and getting a woman’s number.

Today, I’m going to share with you how to essentially read a woman’s mind in these crucial areas so you can know what she wants, without her actually saying it to you.

There are four things you should never expect a woman to tell you. Might she tell you? Sure, but if you expect it, you’re shorting her and yourself a potentially great connection.

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How to Ditch Small Talk and Get Deep Quickly

July 14th, 2015 by Nick Notas 4 Comments



We all know that celebrities rehearse their same stock, boring answers to common interview questions. So why is it that Howard Stern is one of the only talk show hosts who gets them to ditch the PR talk and reveal deep, dark secrets?

Some people say, “Yeah, well it’s Howard Stern…” as if his specific biological makeup allows him to be the only person who gets people to open up. When really, he’s worked very hard to learn how to push people’s buttons and allow them to be vulnerable. It’s a skill he’s refined for decades and I believe anyone else can master it, too. 

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Older Men Who Like Younger Women Aren’t Creeps

July 2nd, 2015 by Nick Notas 56 Comments

Michael Douglas is the man.

Half-your-age-plus-seven. This formula has somehow become the definitive rule for the youngest age of a woman a man can date.

So a 34-year old guy can date a 24-year old girl. No problem there. But if she’s 23 years old…that guy’s a pervert.

Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But many people in society still look down upon older men dating younger girls. They think it’s creepy and even put them the same category as pedophiles.

This taboo makes some of my clients feel shameful about their age preferences. So much so, that they don’t go after women they’re actually interested in. Instead, they settle for less or don’t even try at all.

I think that’s awful because I know many normal, great guys who just happen to like younger women. My own father is 10 years older than my mother.

I want to show you that there’s nothing wrong with age disparity in a relationship and it may even work out better for many couples. 

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Not All Long Distance Relationships Have to Fail

June 25th, 2015 by Nick Notas 9 Comments

Long Distance Girl

Studies now estimate 14 million Americans are in long distance relationships.

College students move across the country from their high school sweethearts. Someone gets a new job a few states away from their partners and they try to make it work. People meet through online dating, fly to meet up, and then continue building their connection through video calls. 

The thing is, long distance relationships are hard. And from my experience as a dating coach, most of them fail. But I don’t think they have to.

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Podcast: Taking Conversations from Boring to Exciting and Sexual

June 18th, 2015 by Nick Notas 6 Comments



David de las Morenas & Dave Perrotta run a podcast called Beastly Gentleman. They teach men how to unleash their full potential in life, love, and career while still being a classy guy.

So when they reached out to me to be on their show, I knew they’d be a perfect fit for all of you. They understood the values I stand for, aligned with them, and genuinely asked thought-provoking questions. They’ve interviewed incredible experts such as James Altucher, so I felt extremely fortunate to be on their show. 


David and Dave being the beasts they are.

For the episode, we delved into how to have sexual conversations, be more assertive, and implement those behaviors ASAP.

You can read more about the episode and listen via the Beastly Gentleman blog or directly on iTunes.

I hope you guys enjoy the interview as much as I enjoyed being on it.