17 Tips to Mastering Conversation With New People

February 13th, 2014 by Nick Notas 15 Comments

People chillin'How many times have you avoided talking to someone new because you were afraid that:

  • You wouldn’t know what to say.
  • You would eventually run out of things to talk about.
  • Conversation would be boring or awkward.

That kind of self-doubt can be paralyzing. But you’re not alone.

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Is Your Insecurity Turning People Off?

February 7th, 2014 by Sean Cooper 14 Comments

Shy Ronnie

This is a guest post by Sean Cooper. Sign up for his newsletter and download his free report “3 Simple Steps To Overcoming Shyness Around Girls.”

One of the most frustrating things when I had really bad social anxiety was feeling like people didn’t like me.

Why did I feel this way?

Well, others never made an effort to come talk to me, be friends with me, or invite me out to do things.

At the end of class, for example, everyone would start talking to each other in groups and I would always be the one left sitting alone.

And whenever I went to go talk to them, it seemed like they didn’t truly enjoy my company. Sometimes I felt like I was annoying them. Other times I felt like they were just talking to me out of pity. And on my worst days I truly started to believe that most people hated me.

Yes, I know this is a depressing way to start off, but maybe you can relate…

The idea I’ll share in this article is why your insecurity is turning people off without you realizing it. I’ll also show you how a simple tweak to the way you approach social situations can make you stop feeling nervous and shy when meeting new people.

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How to Have Phone Sex That Leads to Real Sex

February 4th, 2014 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

Phone Sex Woman

I have a secret to admit…

I’ve had phone sex with a lot of women.

Since I was a teenager, it’s been with girls that:

  • I barely knew from class or through friends.
  • I had just met and gotten their phone number.
  • I went on a first or second date with.
  • I met on AOL chatrooms or through online video games.

But maybe the bigger secret is…

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7 Excuses Women Make to Stay With the Wrong Guy

January 24th, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

I know. Everyone from your parents to your friends has passed judgment on who you should date.

So who am I, a stranger, to tell you about your man?

Well unlike everyone else, I’m not going to give you a list of arbitrary guidelines. What matters most is that he’s not an asshole to you.

I understand that this isn’t novel advice. You’ve heard it before. But the problem is that people seem to misunderstand what it really means.

It has nothing to do what he looks like, what he does for a living, his race, or anything superficial. He could be covered in tattoos and dress gangster for all I care.

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3 Toxic Dating Habits Most Guys Think Are Normal

January 22nd, 2014 by Max Nachamkin 18 Comments

Toxic Gas Mask

This is a guest post by Max Nachamkin, the CEO of Inner Gladiator and Creator of Initiation: The Official Dating Course for Good Guys.

When I first started learning how to talk to women, I messed up. A lot.

I said the wrong things and I made a fool of myself. I over-analyzed every situation and it drove me nuts.

“What’s the best way to get her number?”

“How do I get her to like me?”

“Am I coming off as a creepy?”

And while I was going through this stage in my life, something else was going on too:

I was learning.

I started putting myself out there.

I tried everything I could while I discovered how to flirt, enjoy the presence of women, and make them feel amazing.

During all of it, I came to a big realization about dating:

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7 Reasons Why Meeting Women During the Day is So Damn Easy

January 15th, 2014 by Nick Notas 20 Comments

Ripper Street Flirting

“You’re ready to do your first full approach. See anyone you like?”

“Well, there was this cute girl who worked at Teavana.”

“Great, let’s go talk to her.”

I spent Sunday afternoon with a new client overcoming his approach anxiety. We practiced greeting girls, giving genuine compliments while passing by, and asking for gift recommendations.

But this was the first girl he’d ever talked to with the intention of getting a date.

His nerves came on strong as we walked into the store. It was quiet and there were three other employees near her.

I tried to get him to move a few times but he was frozen. I looked him and said, “No matter what happens, you’ll be happy you did it.”

“You really think so?”


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How to Turn Your Career Success Into Dating Success

January 10th, 2014 by Nick Notas 5 Comments

Vintage Business Man

The men who struggle most in dating are usually very intelligent. They’re resilient in their career life and end up in fulfilling and/or high-paying jobs.

They spend years learning, experimenting, and failing in order to find success. It’s no surprise that many of the clients I work with are programmers, engineers, medical professionals, and lawyers. And if they’re not there yet, they’re working towards that goal.

But because of this, their social and romantic development has taken a back seat. By the time they have their career, they realize they’re clueless about the dating world. Socializing in their free time is unfamiliar and frustrating. They overthink things and are paralyzed when it comes to taking action.

It doesn’t have to be that way. You’re smart and already have the ability to succeed in your personal life, too. You just need to approach dating with the same attitude and fervor as your career.

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2014: The Year For Fear

January 3rd, 2014 by Nick Notas 11 Comments

Forest of Fear

Will you walk the path?

Each year you make new resolutions. And each year you’re disappointed by the previous goals you never accomplished.

So what’s holding you back?

Do you procrastinate? Is it too overwhelming? Do you need help but refuse to seek it out?

In my experience, those are symptoms of a deeper struggle — fear.

This year, I want you to focus on the root of the problem. If you can do that, you will set yourself up for consistent success and lasting changes.

I wrote a poem that I hope inspires you all to take this journey.

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The Big Mistakes That Wreck Your Style, Part 2

December 27th, 2013 by Nicolas Richard 4 Comments

David_Hasselhoff_FashionA few weeks ago, Nicolas from the men’s fashion blog Kinowear gave us the first part on the mistakes men make when it comes to their look and the surprisingly simple ways to avoid them.

He also taught us to recognize fashion brands by their clothing quality and not their marketing campaigns.

Today’s sequel continues with more common mistakes and how to remedy them.

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How to Have Sex With Her for the First Time

December 23rd, 2013 by Nick Notas 13 Comments

Woman in Ecstacy

You and a girl are back at your place after a date. You sit close together. You go for the kiss, she kisses you back passionately, and suddenly you’re tearing each other clothes off. Boom, you’re having sex.

But sometimes, things are a bit more complicated. Many women are not nearly as aggressive or prepared. You may have had a great time together but she’s still hesitant and nervous. This happens especially with younger or inexperienced women.

She may want to take things slower. She may need reassurance that she’s doing the right thing. She may not want to be seen as a “slut”.

You need to get her…

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