“My friend and I just made a bet and we want you to settle it. Who do you think masturbates more — men or women?”
I’d just read some pick-up advice that told me to approach girls in bars with that question. And I was positive I was going to get slapped that night.
They stared back in disbelief and laughed nervously. One of the girls scoffed, “Are you serious right now? Why are you even asking us that?”
I was mortified. I felt ashamed. I stumbled over my words trying to explain myself, “Umm..I’m not trying to be weird. I’m sorry if it came off like that.”
They told me how it was weird and they weren’t going to answer a question like that. I apologized and walked away back to my friend.
I figured I must be doing something wrong. So I tried again with another group, and then another. I kept getting the same negative reactions.
After downing a drink (or two), I decided to try again with another group. They initially gave me the same attitude, but this time the liquid courage gave me a comeback.
With a tipsy grin I shot back, “Oh please, we’re all adults here. We all do it, it’s not a big deal.”
As I awaited the wrath of three women, I was surprised to hear them laughing and sharing their opinions. They even began debating each other and trying to argue their viewpoints playfully to me.
After a couple of minutes, we were all introducing ourselves and hitting it off like old friends.
Why did women suddenly respond with enthusiasm rather than distaste?