9 Holiday Gifts That Make Life Better

December 17th, 2014 by Nick Notas 0 Comments

Every holiday season, we all have to accept gifts that we know we’ll never use. We smile, say thank you, but inside we’re really thinking, “What the hell am I going to do with this?”

 

But I believe with a bit of thought, the right gift can be thought-provoking and invaluable.

You can give someone a useful gift that they never knew they needed. You can give them something that improves their day-to-day routine. You can even change their life.

Here are my suggestions for holiday gifts that make our lives better.

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Do’s and Don’ts For Your Online Dating Profile

December 12th, 2014 by Nick Notas 4 Comments

Looking_At_Your_Profile

When most men write their online dating profile, they go about it the wrong way.

They pen a factual biography that details their life story. They create a resume that only focuses on their skills and accomplishments. Or they write a sales pitch trying to convince women why they should choose them.

All three of these methods fail spectacularly. Instead, you have to understand that the real purpose of your online profile is…

Marketing yourself. Therefore, your goals should be to…

  1. Build interest. We all want the best for ourselves and women are no different. They’re looking for a guy who’s going to improve the quality of their life – whether that’s through adventure, emotional / sexual fulfillment, or status.

    Show your value. You don’t need to brag or prove yourself, but give her an engaging inside scoop. Detail your quirky hobbies, tell your hilarious stories, and talk about your passions.

  2. Make her feel good. A woman’s #1 fear about online dating is having to endure an intense meet-up with a jerk or a stalker. So if you can make a woman smile, laugh, or even relax — you’ll put her mind at ease.

    Embody the emotions you want her to feel, we are reciprocative by nature. Have a positive attitude. Don’t be judgmental. Be playful  and don’t take yourself so seriously.

I know that doesn’t always come naturally. So to help you hit these goals, here’s a list of do’s and don’ts to help evaluate your own profile. 

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Should You Even Try? (For That Girl or Guy)

December 3rd, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Crystal Ball Man

When Hamlet contemplated life, he needed to answer the question, “to be or not to be?” But in romantic pursuit, we all struggle to answer, “to try or not to try?”

That is the question.

Every week you tell me about all kinds of situations…

“There’s a girl at my gym that I always see. Sometimes she even smiles at me. Should I approach her and introduce myself?”

“I’m friends with a guy that I’ve developed feelings for. Should I see if something’s there?”

“I’m 26 and there’s this 19 year old girl who seems into me. Should I invite her to hang out?”

“The barista at the coffee shop is always extra nice to me but he might just be friendly. Should I ask for his number?”

To you I say…

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Physical Attraction is Not Shallow

November 19th, 2014 by Nick Notas 11 Comments

Shallow Attraction

Why is there so much judgement towards the physical preferences of others?

We’re all guilty of it one time or another. Think about these scenarios…

  • A girl who has specific height requirements for suitors in her online dating profiles
  • A guy you like who always chooses blonde girls with big breasts instead
  • A girl who dates a perfect guy and breaks up with him because of his small penis size
  • A guy who only flirts with fit, athletic girls

What do you think of these people? How do their actions make you feel?

Are you angry that they could be so shallow? Do you feel disgusted with how superficial they are? Do they make you want to throw your hands up and say, “That’s why I think dating is such bullshit”?

Why?

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Becoming the Man Women Pursue

November 7th, 2014 by Nick Notas 20 Comments

Woman Chasing Man

I’ve noticed a trend among the guys I work with lately. They go on seemingly amazing dates only to never hear from the girl again. Or to hear, “I just didn’t feel any chemistry.”

I’m not even talking about desperate “nice guys”. These are genuine, respectful men who really like the girls they go out with.

I’ve also been speaking with more women about how they chase guys who treat them poorly. Guys who ignore them, act like assholes, or have proven to be serial cheaters. And sometimes, that only has the girl trying harder.

Because of this, I can see how a lot of guys come to the conclusion that women only date douchebags. I can see how “red pill misogynists” believe women are brainless sluts who just want to be dominated. I get how “pickup artists” spend so much time playing games and acting disinterested because they’re convinced that’s what all women want.

I don’t agree with any of this but I get how it all makes sense in their minds. I understand how their reference experiences seem to prove it.

But I don’t think that’s what’s really happening. When asked, few women say, “I just love being treated like shit!” So what’s the real psychology behind this?

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How to Remain Dignified While Being Rejected

October 23rd, 2014 by Nick Notas 18 Comments

Wolverine Explosion

 

I looked around the club and saw her. She had tanned skin, tall black boots, and danced hypnotically with her girl friends.

I had to meet her.

A dozen guys stood around the room, holding their drinks and leering. No one had the guts to go up to the group of girls.

I wanted to be the guy to do it. With the help of some liquid courage, of course.

I downed my drink and walked towards her. My legs felt like jello with every step. I stopped in front of her, smiled, and said, “Hey.”

She gazed into my eyes and returned a smile. Her friends listened closely.

I thought to myself, Yes, Im in!

But almost immediately, her smile warped into a sneer. She said,

“Do you even like women?”

She was insulting me, questioning my sexuality. And it wasn’t in a playful, challenging kind of way.

(Being honest though, I did dress a little metrosexual back then.)

I tried to hold my ground and replied, “Damn right I do.”

She snickered and in an exaggerated tone said, “Suuure you do. Please, you wouldn’t even know what to do with a real woman.”

Before I could get in another word, she turned around and started laughing. Her friends joined in.

There I stood, rejected, with a group of girls mocking my misfortune and a room full of guys watching it all go down.

I was devastated. I was humiliated. And I was furious. I wanted to say something that made her feel like shit — just like I did.

Instead, I walked away with my fists clenched and left to another bar. Later that night, I met a sweet girl who I immediately hit it off with.

That was one of the worst rejections I’ve faced over the years. As awful as it may have seemed, I’m glad I handled it with dignity. Because it’s choices like those which have allowed me to become a stronger man even from the most horrible rejections.  

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How to Reject Men Safely and Respectfully

October 17th, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

Girl Walking Away

Being rejected sucks. But rejecting someone can suck just as much.

Contrary to what many men believe, most women don’t enjoy turning someone down. It’s awkward. It’s intense. And it can lead to uncomfortable or even dangerous situations.

Because of this, women try to reject others “gently” to protect themselves. Ironically, this usually ends up hurting men more and causes worse problems for everyone.

I’m here to show you how to reject men in a mature, respectful way that’s in your best interests, too.

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Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back?

October 9th, 2014 by Nick Notas 7 Comments

Broken Heart Ex

Yesterday I was on the phone with a long-time client, Jon.

Jon told me how he finally feels like he’s in a good place. His business is thriving, he’s grown tremendously as a person over the last few years, and he’s casually seeing two gorgeous women.

He then asked me, “So, do you think I should reach out to my ex, to see if anything’s still there?”

This surprised me.

Why? Because of the way he phrased the question.

I have an endless supply of guys asking me, “How do I get my ex-girlfriend back?” They’ve already made up their mind and are determined to win her at all costs. And generally, it’s a huge red flag.

But it’s rare for someone to ask me if it’s a good idea in the first place. And not because they need my approval, but because they are truly evaluating whether or not it’s a smart, healthy decision.

I replied to Jon, “Before I answer, let me ask you some questions..”

Here are the six questions I asked him. If you’ve ever thought about getting your ex back, answer these honestly and you’ll know if it’s the right thing to do.

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Do or Die (Literally): The Surefire Way to Achieve Your Goals

October 2nd, 2014 by Nick Notas 6 Comments

What did you want to be Raymond?

You can bet Raymond went to Veterinary school. If you don’t get this picture, click to watch the video.

 

During a drive the other day, I listened to Quitters, Inc.by Stephen King.

It’s the tale of a married man named Dick Morrison. An old college roommate runs into Dick and refers him to a company called, “Quitters, Inc.” With their help, his roommate successfully quit smoking and got a big promotion at work. However, he’s unable to reveal exactly how they turned his life around.

Dick eventually decides to go for a consultation. He meets with his case officer Victor Donatti and signs a nondisclosure agreement.

Victor tells him that Quitters, Inc. has a spectacular 98% success rate. They’re so confident about your success that you don’t have to pay anything until a year after you see results. 

So how do they do it?

They use “aversion therapy” to hold you extremely accountable.

Quitters Inc. will electroshock you, cut off your wife’s fingers, and beat your child if you smoke. And they’ll kill you if you repeatedly break their cold-turkey rules.

When listening, I couldn’t help but think, “This is a really twisted idea. But damn, it would definitely work.” 

Of course, being a pragmatist myself, I tried to figure out how I could use this idea to help others…without having to chop off fingers, of course.

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How to Avoid Having a Shitty Relationship

September 26th, 2014 by Nick Notas 8 Comments

Jay-Z and Beyonce Fist Bumpin'

 

We all know about the running joke that romantic relationships are a source of misery.

We grew up on shows like Married With Children where Al Bundy hated having to hang out with his wife Peg. We hear friends challenge each other with, “You’re so whipped!” And serious couples give us ominous warnings such as, “Don’t get married.” or “It’s all good now, but wait until the honeymoon is over.”

These may make us laugh but they also reinforce that our partners are a burden on our lives.

It’s true that maintaining a happy, healthy relationship takes work. But that doesn’t mean it has to suck.

The secret lies in finding a relationship that makes life easier and more fulfilling for you. With a compatible partner and mutual support, your relationship should decrease outside stresses, increase productivity, and improve the quality of your lives. 

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