How to Become Magnetic: A Guide to Charm and Charisma

May 24th, 2016 by Jason Connell 8 Comments

Charmed woman

My close friend Jason Connell is dangerously charismatic. After meeting him only twice, my fiancé felt so close to him, that she asked him to officiate our wedding later this summer.
Jason’s ability to charm, understand, and connect with people has enabled him to create a life most people can only dream of.

A short list of examples includes:

  • Two months after moving across the US to a city where he knew no one, he was hosting epic dinner parties with influential thought leaders.
  • He doesn’t have to put much effort into meeting girls because his female friends go out of their way to set him up with gorgeous women. At one point, he was even dating two models at the same time.
  • He periodically scores invites to celebrity parties, including an invitation to have dinner with one of his idols, Penn Jillette, at Penn’s house.
  • As an entrepreneur, his businesses have grown organically and often outpace competition because his clients actually care about him and want to invest in his success.
  • And on a personal note, whenever I spend time with Jason, I always learn something about charisma, human connection, and even myself. It leaves me looking forward to the next time we hang out.

You might think that Jason is some sort of suave, extroverted dude. But that’s not the case.

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Are You Finally Ready to Conquer Confidence?

May 20th, 2016 by Nick Notas 0 Comments



Don’t you wish you could feel confident and outgoing walking into any room?

Imagine being the type of man with an unshakeable presence that instantly commands attention.

It’s time to make that a reality. It’s time to create an empowering life without anxiety or constant self-criticism.

Julian Reisinger (of LoveLife Solved) and I are proud to announce Conquer Confidence. This is a 5-day retreat where we teach you the mindset and skills necessary to overcome your fears and become an attractive leader. It will provide you with social experiences that obliterate your comfort zone and develop genuine, lasting confidence for any situation.

Join 12 like-minded men this July 31-August 5 on the island of Majorca, Spain in a luxury mansion.

Click here for more info and apply now.

5 Ways You’re Too Available With Women

May 12th, 2016 by Nick Notas 6 Comments


Problem: You’re talking to a new girl, and you don’t want her to think you’re too available (and therefore desperate.)

Solution: You take a long time to respond to all types of communication.



Artificially waiting to reply only encourages the same kind of behavior from women. It makes you look like you’re not that interested. And they aren’t excited to go on a date with you because you haven’t created a strong enough connection.

In turn, women delay messaging you back because they don’t want put themselves out there to someone who’s not that into them.

This all results in frustrating, dead-end conversations. And no dates.

If you get a message from your friends, do you even think twice about replying? Of course not. So why should texting women be any different? It shouldn’t be. And pretending to be too busy to respond shows how much you’re seeking approval.

If you’re having engaging conversation (which is a different topic in itself), a woman isn’t going to be turned off by you responding to her in a timely fashion

So, to return to our original problem — you may be too available with women, but not in the ways that you think. It has to do more with how you prioritize a woman you barely know and how much you value your time.

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How Self-Analysis Leads to Self-Empowerment

May 5th, 2016 by Nick Notas 5 Comments


Ask any parent about their child’s inquisitive nature and they’ll tell you how kids question everything. They want to know all about the world around them, where they came from, and where they’re going to go.

If you answer one thing, kids will prod deeper and deeper and deeper until you can’t take it anymore. It requires a massive amount of patience because nothing seems to quench a child’s thirst for knowledge except…more knowledge

As we grow older though, we seem to lose that sense of wonder. We get stuck in our ways. We tell ourselves that ignorance is bliss. And our scope of curiosity often narrows to what we already know and are comfortable with.

I don’t think this is purely a product of age or cynicism. Yes, some people are just grumpy old farts. But it almost always comes from a place of fear.

Over time, we begin to fear the reality check that comes with accumulating more knowledge. We’re afraid of prodding and poking too deeply — especially when it comes to self-analysis. And this plays a huge role in what hinders growth and development.

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How to Give Yourself the Courage to Kiss a Girl

April 22nd, 2016 by Nick Notas 7 Comments


In my previous article, I tried to convince you why going for a kiss on dates is always the right choice.

Some of you thanked me for the insight and the perfectly-timed reality check. Others already knew deep down that you had to start consistently making a move, and not doing so was killing your dating opportunities.

But that still doesn’t necessarily solve the problem of how to actually do it. Because our anxiety often dictates the actions we take.

As much as I’d like to, I can’t be there with you on a date to push you to go for the kiss. You have to be the one to make that leap in the moment.

To help you do that, I’ve devised a set of ideas to help you gain the necessary courage to kiss the women you like. Continue Reading…

Why You Need to Make a Move or Move On

April 14th, 2016 by Nick Notas 9 Comments

How to make a move

Is there a girl you like that you’re just dying to know if she likes you back? Have you hung out with her time and time again but things are still ambiguous?

Do you rack your brain with never-ending questions such as, “Does she like me?”, “Does she see me as just a friend?”, or “Could she still like me after all this time?”

That uncertainty is a terrible feeling, isn’t it?

You’re not alone. In all my years of work, this may be the most common situation men tell me about.

They’re frustrated and feel stuck in limbo. They get tunnel vision and become obsessed with one girl. They can’t focus on other eligible women.

These men detail their entire history with their romantic interest to me and ask, “Nick, what do I do? How do I find out how she really feels?”

Regardless of their situation, my answer is always the same. I’m here to tell you what I tell them…

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Why Porn Haters Have It All Wrong

April 7th, 2016 by Nick Notas 14 Comments

Few causes have such passionate followers as the anti-porn movement. With the recent Time Magazine cover, everyone seems to be calling for the destruction of pornography.

Advocates of this idea are often preach that “porn is evil”. And anyone who doesn’t agree is misinformed, misguided, and perhaps…misogynistic. If you even casually watch porn, you have a problem and you probably objectify women.

These aren’t conspiracy theorists spewing crazy ideas though. Recent research reveals that porn can negatively affect our mind, our relationships, and our social views. But…so can a lot of other awesome things.

Some of life’s greatest pleasures aren’t necessarily “good” for us and we indulge anyway. We take calculated risks. We weigh the costs and benefits. And some of us can indulge while remaining healthy, responsible, and better for it.

The notion that all porn is evil is irrational and diminishes the importance of how we should be dealing with the ever-growing abundance of porn in a healthy way. Because…

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Launch Your Social Life Using The Butterfly Effect

March 31st, 2016 by Julian Reisinger 6 Comments

This is a guest post by Julian Reisinger , co-founder of

In 1961, MIT meteorologist Edward Lorenz was working on a mathematical model to describe how air moves around in the atmosphere. But soon, he discovered that the weather didn’t always behave as predicted. Small events, like a butterfly flapping its wings in the Amazon, could set off a chain reaction and theoretically build up to a Hurricane in the Gulf of Mexico. This phenomenon later came to be known as the butterfly effect.

But the butterfly effect has many more applications than meteorology. Seemingly tiny decisions in your own life can have huge effects on your career, circle of friends, and romantic connections. And it’s important to harness this power to trigger positive ripple effects instead of negative ones.

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How Sounding Silly Made Me Sound Sexy

March 24th, 2016 by Nick Notas 3 Comments

Roger Love Perfect Voice

Note: This is my unbiased review of Roger Love’s The Perfect Voice. It is an audio system focused on making you sound charismatic, confident, and sexy.

There I was driving to work and belting out,

“Goog goog goog goog GOOG!”

I couldn’t help but laugh at how ridiculous this all seemed. How was sounding like a baby supposed to help me get a more attractive voice?

I was listening to a vocal warm-up CD by world-renowned vocal coach Roger Love. It was supposed to expand my vocal range and make my voice more powerful.

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How to Lead Women Without Being Controlling

March 17th, 2016 by Nick Notas 21 Comments

Healthy Leading

A lot of men are constantly worried about upsetting a girl. They’re terrified that if they create any kind of tension — they’re going to lose their opportunity with her.


They avoid all conflict. They don’t speak up for themselves. And they don’t ever lead. They think that leading is going to come off as controlling.

These guys end up being too passive and safe. They count on women to make all the decisions in their relationships. And the whole time they believe they’re being the perfect nice guy that women want.

But without that leadership, they lose some of the greatest qualities which make a man attractive. They lose the respect that leadership commands. They don’t embody the strength that leaders do. They don’t give women the sense of security they get from a man who knows what he wants.

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